The groom and his friends. Friends of the groom. Competitions for groomsmen

At the door of the house (if the house is multi-story, at the entrance to the entrance), the groom and his friends are met by friends and guests of the bride.

Leading:
Hello, guests gentlemen,
Where are you from and where?
If you're passing by, just pass by,
If you come to us, tell us why.

The groom and his friends answer:
For the bride.

Leading:
For the bride. That's great.
We are waiting for you, our clear falcon.
Yes. We have a bride
It's impossible to take your eyes off.
Young, slim, beautiful,
Whiteface, everyone is amazed.
But in order to win her hand,
You need to work hard.
After these words, the groom and his friends enter the door and see, oddly enough, steps.

Leading:
There are many tender words in the world,
And the bride deserves them.
You walk up the steps
And call the bride tenderly.
The groom is offered the first test. He must climb the stairs (if the house is multi-story, up to the first floor). At each step of the stairs, the groom affectionately calls his betrothed. The task can be complicated by writing a letter on each step and inviting the groom to affectionately name his bride with this letter. If he cannot come up with anything for a given letter, the witness and the rest of the groom’s friends pay a ransom. After this, the groom moves to the next step, etc.

When the groom overcomes this obstacle, he is offered the following. The bridesmaid holds a chamomile in her hands. On each petal of this chamomile, memorable dates for the future newlyweds are written in advance. This could be the date the bride and groom met, the hour of their first date, the waist size or shoe size of the bride, and even the age of the future mother-in-law.

Leading:
Here is a field chamomile,
Tear off a petal
Guess the number.
After these words, the groom tears off the chamomile petals one by one and guesses one or another memorable number. If he cannot guess what any number is associated with, then he pays a ransom. As soon as the ransom amount suits the bride's guests, the groom tears off the next petal. The test ends when the chamomile is left without petals.
If the groom has completed this test with dignity, he is passed on. (When the ransom takes place in a multi-story building, the groom is allowed to take the elevator to the bride's floor or must walk if the bride's friends are unhappy with the ransom or the way the groom guessed the memorable numbers).

A bridesmaid stands at the bride's door and holds a large piece of paper in her hands. On this sheet, the bride and her bridesmaids leave imprints of their lips in advance.

Leading:
You see these lips.
Can you guess it or not?
Where is your beloved's footprint?
The groom is looking for the imprint of his bride's lips. The task can be complicated by writing a certain amount under each print. In this case, the groom or his friends pay the specified ransom for all incorrectly guessed lips. This test may be accompanied by playful reproaches. The competition continues until the groom guesses the lips of his betrothed.
After the task is completed, the presenter offers the following:
The door is closed on the way,
We need to find the key to the door.
Serenade, song of love,
You do it and pass.
The groom must sing a song. If he refuses, then friends help. If friends also refuse, then a ransom is paid. Its amount should completely satisfy the bride's guests.
When this task is completed or the ransom is paid, the door opens and the groom finds himself in front of the next locked door.

Leading:
Isn't the groom lame?
Come on, stomp your foot.
The groom stomps.

Leading:
Don't make people laugh,
Dance a gypsy song for us.
If an accordion player is present at the wedding, he performs the gypsy song. If there is no accordion player, then the tape recording starts. The groom dances a gypsy dance or pays a ransom to the laughter and jokes of the guests.

Leading:
The beautiful bride loves fun,
Dance not alone, but with everyone!
The groom's friends and he himself perform the gypsy or pay a large ransom.

Leading:
For my dear bride -
Champagne bottle.
For the beautiful wife -
Chocolate "Alenushka"
For a long dress -
A bottle of wine.
So as not to go to someone else's cutie,
Give me some paper money.
After these words, the groom and his friends pay the ransom, the guests can jokingly shout out: “You don’t pay enough, apparently, you want to go to someone else’s cutie,” “Don’t be stingy, give more!” etc.

After the ransom is paid, the groom is offered the next task.

Leading:
In this bunch is the key to the door,
Can you find him?
If you took the wrong one, pay.
The groom is given a bunch of keys, from which he removes the keys one by one and tries to open the door with one key or another. For every key that does not fit the door, the groom and his friends pay a ransom. The competition ends when the required key is found and the door is open.
The door opens. The groom and his guests see a table blocking the corridor.

Leading:
What's your bride's name?
Write in money.
Show me how you write it!
The groom is asked to write his bride's full name in money. He lays it out with money on the table. This action is accompanied by jokes like “Write bigger!” etc. After the groom completes the task, the table is cleared.

Leading:
You paid money generously
But he didn’t talk about love.
So that no one doubts
Confess your love!
Shout loudly without melting,
(name of the bride)! I love you!
The groom screams and the guests judge. There may be exclamations: “Something is quiet!”, “The bride doesn’t hear anything!” etc. The groom shouts a declaration of love until the guests are satisfied.

In front of the door of the room where the bride is, the groom sees a basin.

Leading:
Here. You see this basin.
Put it in now
Neither kid nor lamb,
Not a skinny pig.
Put it for the bride
What does she need for her soul?
Of course, the groom will not be able to immediately guess what exactly should be put in the basin, and a comical situation will arise. But the test will last until the groom realizes that he himself must stand in the basin.

After the groom has passed this test, he sees several ribbons peeking out from under the door where the bride is. In the room, the bride and her bridesmaids are tied to these ribbons by the finger. And for more fun, you can tie, for example, a neighbor to some ribbon retirement age. If the groom pulls the ribbon and pulls out this same matryona, it will be a laugh.

Leading:
Pull one ribbon
And pull out your betrothed.
If you pull out the wrong one,
Pay us money.
Or marry the one
What will you pull behind you?
The competition with laughter and jokes continues until the groom pulls out his bride. When he makes a mistake, the guests loudly ask for ransom or tell the groom that he must marry the one who came out from behind the door.

After the bride is finally guessed, the future newlyweds walk hand in hand to the table, and then it turns out that the bride is missing one shoe.

Leading:
You are going with your bride,
How will you marry her?
I don't have one shoe,
Find her, hero!
Several shoe boxes are offered to the groom's attention. One of them contains the bride's shoe. For a laugh, you can put torn slippers, galoshes or felt boots in the remaining boxes. For each incorrectly guessed box, the groom pays a ransom. The test lasts until the groom finds his betrothed shoe.
When the groom finally overcomes all the obstacles on the path to his happiness, the host says:
Passed the test
You've reached the bride!
And that's why now
You take the bride to the registry office!

The future newlyweds go to the table, where they receive congratulations and wishes from the guests.

Having a bride, the groom is: and the friend of the grooms, standing and listening to him, rejoices with joy for the voice of the grooms: this is my joy being fulfilled

St. Kirill of Alexandria

“If he has a bride, the groom is: and the friend of the grooms, standing and listening to him, rejoices with joy for the voice of the grooms: this is my joy being fulfilled.” And here, taken from the similarity with us, speech leads to the clarification of subtle speculations, for sensually tangible objects can serve as images of spiritual objects, and examples taken from material-physical phenomena often provide evidence of spiritual phenomena. So, he says, Christ is the bridegroom and the hero of the occasion, and I am the convener of the feast and the bridegroom’s confidant, who considers the greatest joy and highest dignity in being only among friends and hearing the voice of the Triumphant (groom). And now I already have what I wanted and my efforts have come true. After all, I not only announced that Christ would come, but I see Him already present and feel His very voice in my ears. But you, my wisest disciples, seeing humanity betrothed to Christ going to Him and contemplating the nature that has withdrawn and deviated from love for Him, ascending to spiritual communion with Him through holy baptism, do not be sad, he says, for what is no longer for me, but for the spiritual Everyone rushes to the groom. This is how it should be, for “he who has a bride is a bridegroom,” that is, do not look for the bridegroom’s crown on me, and the Psalmist says not to me, rejoicing: “Hear, O daughter, and see, and incline your ear, and forget your people and your father’s house, for the King desired your kindness.”(Ps. 45:11–12) Not looking for my palace, the bride says: “Tell me, my soul loves him, where do you graze, where do you rest at noon?”(Song. 1:6) . She has a Heavenly Bridegroom, but I rejoice in the fact that, having exceeded the honor due to a slave, both in name, and in fact I find myself a friend of the Bridegroom.

I think that I have well interpreted the meaning of this saying. And I have already given enough explanation about spiritual marriage, so we consider it unnecessary to write anything more about it.

Interpretation of the Gospel of John. Book II.

Blazh. Theophylact of Bulgaria

He who has the bride is the groom, and the friend of the groom, standing and listening to him, rejoices with joy, hearing the voice of the groom. This is my joy fulfilled

Evfimy Zigaben

Have a bride, have a groom

As having a bride, He is the groom, or master. The bride is a people of believers, the Church, mysteriously united through faith, and the groom is Jesus Christ, mysteriously uniting with Himself and appropriating this chosen one to Himself. Therefore, in another place, the Savior called this matter marriage.

and the friend of the grooms, standing and listening to him, rejoices with joy for the voice of the grooms

Above he called himself a servant and subordinate, but here he calls himself a friend of Jesus Christ, not exalting himself or boasting, but by the name of a friend showing his joy in this matter. Slaves do not rejoice at the marriage of their masters as much as friends do. These words have the following meaning: “He is the groom and the Lord, and I am a friend and matchmaker, who, standing already, as if he had arranged the marriage and carried out the order, and hearing Him Himself talking with the bride, guiding and instructing her, I rejoice at this voice, so pleasant, so effective, so saving.”

this is my joy being fulfilled

since I handed over the bride to Him and fulfilled, as has already been said, the assignment given to me. The disciples thought to irritate their teacher and arouse jealousy in him, but with these words he showed that he not only did not envy the one who surpassed him in glory, but, on the contrary, was very happy, because he himself cared about this. Then he predicts the future.

Lopukhin A.P.

He who has the bride is the groom, and the friend of the groom, standing and listening to him, rejoices with joy, hearing the voice of the groom. This is my joy fulfilled

Explaining his attitude towards Christ, the Baptist compares himself to the “friend of the groom,” who among the Jews played the main role in the entire process of marriage. Of course, this friend was very pleased when he saw that his matchmaking business had come to the desired end and when he heard the conversation of the newlywed couple. The Baptist also prepared people to receive Christ, who was now gathering around Him a community of believers or the Church, for the Church was the bride of this Heavenly Bridegroom (2 Cor. 11:2). From these words of the Baptist we have the right to conclude that he already knew, even earlier than his disciples reported, about the success that Christ had in Judea, and this gave him joyful confidence that the work of Christ would reach the desired goal.

The complexity of organizing a wedding is associated with the need to comply with many nuances, so when preparing a celebration, you often cannot do without the help of the young spouse’s friends. So that wedding worries do not become too much for the couple, Some organizational issues are entrusted to the groom's friends(or entrusted to the best man).

Who are they?

Most often these are the closest friends, good acquaintances, work colleagues or relatives of the groom. A friend of the young spouse can be a witness or. Usually the number of friends does not exceed 8-10 people.

Friends carry out a number of important tasks in preparation for and during the ceremonial day. These responsibilities may include:

organizing a bachelor party;
choice wedding suit(for the groom and his company of friends);
participation in a wedding rehearsal;
decoration of the banquet hall;
financial aid;
other()

In addition to helping with wedding preparations, friends of the future spouse are often responsible for entertaining the guests. In addition to the above, they carry out creative assignments:

writing toasts, solemn speeches;
participation in compiling a playlist for the wedding evening;
organization of competitions, preparation of props and prizes for their holding.

Clothing and style

Friends definitely take part in the production themed photo shoot. For joint wedding photography, they often select similar outfits or additional wardrobe elements in a certain style and color scheme (classic, retro costumes, eco-style, etc.).

Maintaining Uniformity in appearance of a team of friends allows you to create beautiful memorable photos.

Clothes and should be comfortable original, in harmony with the style of the wedding, as well as the outfits of the bridesmaids.

Small, bright, identical accessories (bow ties, boutonnieres, etc.), selected in accordance with the general concept of the event (retro, boho, vintage), look original.

Best man

The duties of the best man and witness at a wedding are: comprehensive assistance and support for the groom in the pre-wedding time, as well as at the celebration itself.

Often, the best man is the best friend or relative who is able to coordinate the rest of the friends, distributing the functions of preparing the event among them.

A certain range of responsibilities is not the only thing that distinguishes the groom’s friends. Maintaining the spirit of romance, a cheerful and non-boring friendly atmosphere is the key to an impeccable wedding celebration, about which everyone will have only warm memories.

Organizing a wedding is a troublesome task, because you need to follow traditions and think through the nuances to make this solemn event unforgettable. If previously most of the problems fell on the shoulders of the newlyweds, turning a joyful event into a series of worries, a “holiday for the guests,” now everything is beginning to change, and wedding worries are shared among themselves by relatives and friends of the bride and groom, who are not indifferent to the long-awaited happiness of the newlyweds. Therefore, at weddings, instead of the usual boyfriend or witness, you can increasingly meet several young men at once.

The groom's friends are the closest comrades and male relatives one has. These are the people who, at a wedding, during preparation for it, bear the “burdens” of organizing and holding the celebration. In other words, these are the people who make the event lively, fun, coherent, and organized. The new practice of inviting not just one, but several friends to a wedding came to us from Europe (UK) and quickly took root, helping to solve two big problems:

Ease the burden of the spouse and witness. With the advent of several friends, the volume of wedding troubles began to be divided equally among all the groomsmen, and therefore the load on one person decreased noticeably.
Don't offend the groom's friends. Under previous traditions, he had to single out his “best” friend from the rest by appointing him as a witness. Now close friends can become them.

The new tradition has made weddings more fun, carefree, and brighter. The groom at a wedding, where all his friends are groomsmen, feels more comfortable and confident. Therefore, such assistants should be truly congenial people, but even with a large scale event there should not be too many of them, ideally no more than ten.

Responsibilities of groomsmen at a wedding

The main, honorable function of the groomsmen is to provide comprehensive support to the groom. This is moral support, including organizing a bachelor party. Physical – assistance in organizing the wedding and carrying it out. Without help, it would be difficult for the spouse to organize everything and keep track of everything, but several closest friends, without discomfort, with pleasure, sharing the load among themselves, cope with their responsibilities.

The responsibilities of friends on the husband's side include:

Moral support for a friend getting married.
Choose wedding dress together with the groom for him and for yourself. - Decoration of the wedding procession.
Organization of a bachelor party.
Assisting guests with accommodation and other issues. - Delivery of gifts to the newlyweds’ home.
Dancing with women who came without a partner.
Participation in a photo shoot.
Support, assistance in organizational matters.

However, the presence of friends on the groom’s side does not eliminate the need for a witness, whose functions are slightly expanded. In addition to the above responsibilities, which the witness shares with the rest of the groomsmen, there are the most basic ones: Signing documents at the registry office, if necessary. Participation in the wedding ceremony, if such a procession is provided. Storing rings until needed. Therefore, you will have to choose the “best” friend of your future husband, but the presence of the role of additional best men makes this necessity somewhat formal.

Groomsmen Clothes

The groom and his companions perform at the celebration as a single team, so the outfits must have a single character, stylistic solution, or have common details. The clothes of the groom and groomsmen may be the same or slightly distinguish the groom from the crowd. The more original the husband’s team of friends looks, the more fun and beautiful the wedding will seem. The image of a male company should not go beyond the general concept of the wedding. Therefore, the outfit of the groom and friends is also a kind of attribute of creating the right atmosphere at the holiday.

Here are several options for creating a single original image for your husband’s team:

Butterflies. Multi-colored or one color, for the young man and friends. The groom's bowtie can stand out in size or tone. -
All team representatives wear multi-colored socks. - Suspenders.
Bowler hats or hats.
Glasses.
Boutonnieres, pocket squares.
Checkered jackets or pants.
Multi-colored ties of the same style with identical boutonnieres.
No jackets.
Costumes of the same style, theme, reproduction of the same era.

When choosing suits for friends and your future husband, you should consider the following points: Comfort. The character of the costumes should be close to the groom and friends; the outfits should emphasize the state of mind. In addition, suits and shoes should be comfortable and convenient. Bright hues. If there is no thematic need, when choosing the color of the costumes, pay attention to bright hues or Blue colour, or try to dilute the image bright colors so that the event does not look gloomy. Brightness and originality. Bright details and stylistic solutions will help make the wedding fun and memorable.

Dance of the groom and his friends

Another fresh tradition at weddings is the groom dancing with his friends. This dance is presented to the bride as a gift, a demonstration of the ardor and seriousness of the groom’s feelings, and therefore is often performed at the ransom. The groom's friends, like faithful companions, support the young man and help in preparation. The dance that the guys perform is either improvisation or a small planned production. This is always a very cheerful, interesting spectacle, so the young man’s dance with friends becomes one of the brightest moments of the celebration. Watch the video of one of these performances:

The groom's companions play the most important role at the wedding - they make it fun and interesting: they entertain the guests, fool around, support, help him, participate in competitions and organize them. They fill the wedding with the spirit of celebration, romance, fun and endless positivity. If the groom has good, cheerful friends, then the wedding will definitely be a success.

Are you scared and start to worry before the wedding? No need at all, a wedding is a fun event that starts with the ransom.
The main thing is not to lose sight of the bride price scenario, we hope that you will like our scenario...

At the door of the house (if the house is multi-storey - at the entrance to the entrance), the groom and his friends are met by friends and guests of the bride, the host.

Leading:

Hello, guests gentlemen,
Where are you from and where?
If you're passing by, just pass by,
If you come to us - why, tell me?

Groom and his friends:

For the bride.

Leading:

For the bride?
That's great!
We are waiting for you, our clear falcon!
Yes, we have a bride,
It's impossible to take your eyes off:
Young, slim, beautiful,
Whiteface, everyone is amazed.
But in order to win her hand,
You need to work hard.

After these words, the groom and his friends enter the door.

Leading:

There are many tender words in the world,
And the bride deserves them.
You walk up the steps,
Call her tenderly.

The groom is offered the first test.

He must climb the stairs (if the house is multi-story, up to the first floor). At each step of the stairs, the groom affectionately calls his betrothed. The task can be complicated by writing a letter on each step and inviting the groom to start immediately with this letter. If he cannot come up with anything for a given letter, the witness and the rest of the groom’s friends pay a ransom. After this, the groom moves on to the next step, etc. When the groom overcomes this obstacle, he is offered the next one. In the hands of the bridesmaid is Roma, shka. On each petal there are memorable numbers for the future newlyweds. This could be the date the bride and groom met, the hour of their first date, the waist size or shoe size of the bride, and even the age of the future mother-in-law.

Leading:

Here is a field chamomile:
Tear off a petal
Guess the number.

After these words, the groom tears off the chamomile petals one by one and guesses one or another memorable number. If he cannot guess what any number is associated with, then he pays a ransom. As soon as the ransom amount suits the bride's guests, the groom tears off the next petal. The test ends when the chamomile is left without petals.

When the groom has passed this test, he is allowed to continue. If the affair takes place in a multi-story building, the groom is allowed to take the elevator to the bride's floor or must walk if the bride's friends are unhappy with the ransom or the way the groom guessed the memorable numbers. A bridesmaid stands at the door and holds a large piece of paper in her hands. On this sheet, the bride and her bridesmaids leave imprints of their lips in advance.

Leading:

You see these lips.
You will guess or not.
Where is your beloved's footprint?

The groom is looking for the imprint of his bride's lips. The task can be complicated by writing a certain amount under each print. In this case, the groom or his friends pay the specified ransom for all incorrectly guessed lips. This test may be accompanied by playful reproaches.

After the task is completed, the presenter offers the following:

The door is closed on the way,
We need to find the key to the door.
Serenade, song of love,
You do it and pass.
The groom must sing a song.

If he refuses, then friends help. If friends also refuse, then they pay a ransom. Its amount should completely satisfy the bride's guests. When the task is completed, the door opens and the groom finds himself in front of the next locked door.

Leading:

Isn't the groom lame?
Come on, stomp your foot.
The groom stomps.

Leading:

Don't make people laugh,
Dance "Gypsy" for us.

The fly sounds. The groom dances or pays the ransom.

Leading:

The beautiful bride loves fun, Dance not alone, but with everyone!
The groom's friends join in the dance or pay a large ransom.

Leading:

For the dear bride - a bottle of Champagne.
For the beautiful wife -
Chocolate "Alenushka"
For a long dress -
A bottle of wine.
So as not to go to someone else's cutie,
Give me some paper money.

After these words, the groom and his friends pay the ransom, the guests can shout out: “You don’t pay enough, apparently, you want to go to someone else’s cutie,” “Don’t be stingy, give more!” etc. After the ransom is paid, the groom is offered the next task.

Leading:

In this bunch is the key to the door,
Can you find him?
If you took the wrong one, pay.

The groom is given a bunch of keys, from which he removes the keys one by one and tries to open the door. For every key that does not come to the door, the groom and his friends pay a ransom. The door opens. The groom and his guests see a table blocking the corridor.

Leading:

What's your bride's name?
Write in money.
Show me how you write it!

The groom is asked to “write” his bride’s full name on the banknotes. This action is accompanied by phrases like “Write bigger!” etc. After completing the task, the table is cleared.

Leading:

You paid money generously
But he didn’t talk about love.
So that no one doubts
Confess your love!
Shout loudly without melting,
(Bride's name). I love you!

The groom screams and the guests judge. There may be exclamations: “Something is quiet!”, “The bride doesn’t hear anything!” etc. The groom shouts a declaration of love until the guests are satisfied.
In front of the door of the room where the bride is, the groom sees a basin.

Leading:

Here. You see this basin.
Put it in now
Neither kid nor lamb,
Not a skinny pig.
Put it for the bride
What does she need for her soul?

Of course, the groom will not be able to immediately guess what exactly should be put in the basin, and a comical situation will arise. The test will last until the groom realizes that he himself must stand in the basin. After the groom has passed this test, he sees that there are several ribbons hanging on the door behind which the bride is located. In the room, the bride and her bridesmaids are tied to these ribbons by the finger. And for more fun, you can tie, for example, a neighbor of retirement age to some ribbon.

Leading:

Pull one ribbon
And pull out your betrothed.
If you pull out the wrong one,
Pay us money.
Or marry the one
What will you pull behind you?

The competition with laughter and jokes continues until the groom pulls out his bride. If he makes a mistake, the guests loudly ask for ransom or say that he should marry the one who came out from behind the door.
After the bride is finally guessed, the future newlyweds walk hand in hand to the table, and then it turns out that the bride is missing one shoe.

Leading:

You are going with your bride,
How will you marry her?
I don't have one shoe,
Find her, hero!

Several shoe boxes are offered to the groom's attention. One of them contains the bride's shoe. In the remaining boxes you can put torn slippers, galoshes or felt boots. For each incorrectly guessed box, the groom pays a ransom. The test lasts until the groom finds the shoe of his betrothed.

When the groom finally overcomes all obstacles on the path to his happiness, presenter says:

Passed the test.
You've reached the bride!
And that's why now
Take the bride to the registry office!

The future newlyweds go to the table, where they receive congratulations and wishes from the guests.