How to meet a girl online. What to write to a girl in the first message: original examples. Right place and time

In our hectic age, there is less and less time left to create trusting and truly intimate relationships. At the same time, every woman dreams, and every man wants to find a faithful life partner.

And here dating sites come to the rescue, created specifically so that busy people can find their destiny. This article is devoted to answering the question of how to get acquainted on the Internet.

Benefits of online dating.

At a time when all thoughts are occupied with questions about that, many of us simply do not have enough time to find love. If earlier people met in transport, at parties and clubs, now these ways of finding a soul mate are suitable only for students, or young people who are not busy at work from 9 am to infinity. And the Internet provides a unique opportunity to immediately consider many candidates for the role of the chosen one or the chosen one.

In addition, you can immediately indicate what kind of relationship you are interested in, and there will be no ambiguity and misunderstandings that often arise in personal communication, when a man expects only a couple of meetings, and a girl dreams of a happy marriage. At the same time, as they say, not always. Everything can be the other way around. In this sense, the Internet provides complete freedom.

How to create an attractive image.

So how do you get started with online dating? Of course, from filling out a questionnaire and posting it on a dating site. At the same time, it is advisable to choose a site with a good reputation, where you are guaranteed to find the one you need.

How to fill out a questionnaire so that it attracts potential partners? To answer this question, it will be useful for the fair sex to remember. First of all, you don't have to write a lot. Men do not like chatter, both in life and online.

But the information should be interesting and draw attention to you. For example, listing a complete list of your service merits and all the educational institutions where you studied would be clearly superfluous. Write about your personality traits, tastes and preferences. Remember that in any, even the shortest, text, your individuality is visible.

Also, psychologists advise beautiful ladies to avoid an overly aggressive and assertive style of communication via the Internet if they are not looking for specific adventures, but want to find a life partner. To properly get acquainted on the Internet, you need to carefully choose a photo in which you will look as natural as possible, without posing.

Men who want to attract the attention of the opposite sex can be advised, as in ordinary life, to be active and not to forget. At the first stage of acquaintance, this is, of course, attention. Tell about yourself, but also be interested in the lady you like, try to involve her in a conversation. If you are looking for a serious relationship, be extremely honest, as any lies will come out.

Start of action.

So, it's been a while since you met, and you both feel like it's time to take your relationship to the next level. Usually, starting and scheduling a meeting in "real life" is not easy. If your communication develops as it should, you will feel when the moment is most suitable for a date.

, like men, is full of worries and deeds. Sometimes meetings are postponed simply because of busyness. You need to find a time when you both feel free.

Traditionally, it is believed that a man decides. But such prejudices have long been a thing of the past, and a woman may well be the first to be active. If it’s scary to go to a meeting right away, it makes sense to pre-chat on Skype.

The first date after meeting online is probably the most exciting, long-awaited, but also unsafe moment. Therefore, before agreeing to a meeting, take care of the precautions.

Dangers of online dating.

If you have been corresponding with a person for a long time, and it seems to you that you have known him all your life, this is not a guarantee that he is dangerous. On the Internet, we are, in fact, all anonymous, and anyone can hide behind the mask of a caring and understanding interlocutor, ranging from a petty fraudster to a crazy one, so be vigilant.

You can meet a girl on the Internet on dating sites, on social networks, on thematic forums. To interest the interlocutor, the conversation should not start with banal phrases. "How are you? "- sounds familiar and uninteresting. At best, the girl will answer: “It’s okay,” and the man will again have to puzzle over how to captivate the person on the other end of the wire. Silly jokes are also not a good idea. If you are not a stand-up comedian, it is better to save the girl's nerves. You can interest her with erudition, interesting work, versatile hobbies.

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Personal page monitoring

1. Study the page, personal data, posts on the wall. Find something to grab on to. Write what you love the same.
2. Check if you have mutual friends. You can send a message with something like this: “What is this "radish" (or a good person - according to the circumstances) doing with you as a friend? ".
3. If you know a girl in real life, but don't know each other personally, you can start the dialogue like this: “I saw you on the street today. Everyone was gloomy, and you smiled. What were you thinking at that moment? ".
4. If you are from different cities, ask how the settlement lives, you can even ask about cataclysms.
5. Send her a funny video. Only without vulgarity. Funny animals and children are loved even by the most callous people.
6. It is permissible to compliment her appearance, but without "fanaticism". To say: “Yes, you can paint pictures with you” is good, but it’s better not to constantly admire her lips and eyes. Such phrases give out professional pick-up artists.
7. You can start a conversation with a discussion of books, clubs, trips abroad - depending on what the girl publishes on her personal page. Even the weather is not forbidden to discuss if the interlocutor is a meteorologist.

The main thing in communication is to show sincere interest. Women know how to calculate Don Juan. Overt flattery should be avoided, as excessive praise looks fake.

Turn your weaknesses into strengths

What can you tell about yourself

First post

They meet, as you know, by clothes, and online - by the first message. Be nice and casual. Girls also love impudence, but the main thing here is not to slide into rudeness. Light trolling is what you need to start a conversation.

Approximate phrases for acquaintance (not for copying, but for reflection):


	"Greetings to sunny Moscow from gloomy St. Petersburg!"
"How are you?"	"I guess you're just as in love with Italy (seals, snowboards, rock music) as I am?"
"Girl, does your mother need a son-in-law?"	"Until this day I was a confirmed bachelor. But it seems that my foundations have been shaken."
"I want to give you a gift - a kiss. Catch it soon."	"Look, what a funny inscription on my T-shirt. I love stupid clothes. Do you collect anything?"
"How are you?"	"It's cold outside. So you don't want to get out of the heat. Let's go to freeze together?"
"Guy ordered?"	"Ever been to the Hamster bar? Do you want to go? I'm kidding, there is no such bar, but there are a bunch of others. I invite you for coffee and donuts."
"How are you doing?"	"I understand that you adore (insert the name of the idol here), and I'm just going to his concert. Will you come with me?"
"You are beautiful"	"Wow! Are you a professional stylist?"

Some young people make the same mistake - they bombard the girl with questions and become overly intrusive. The other extreme is to write a message and disappear. The interlocutor, without waiting for an answer, will simply lose interest.

Get to know a man

Dating websites

It is believed that it is easier to get acquainted on special sites. But even here the man is waiting for "pitfalls".

Girls come to dating sites with some prejudice. They are sure in advance that the goal of a man is a short relationship, and she came here to create a family.

It would be right to first ask the interlocutor about interests, goals, hobbies, and only then call for a cup of coffee. It is desirable to invite a girl to a public place: a cafe, a bar, a restaurant, a club, even a library or a bookstore. But calling for a walk, the guy runs the risk of being branded mean and insolvent. Even the most unselfish girl will become thoughtful.

On love sites, you need to express yourself in a special way. If in social networks only a few can show attention to a girl, then on dating sites there are dozens of interested men. Here the main task is to stand out from the series of interlocutors. It is on a dating site that girls are most likely to appreciate male attention. Compliments, light flirting, good-natured banter are used.

Story about yourself

Long questions will convince the girl that the man simply has nothing to tell about himself. Therefore, do not be shy to talk about work, interesting cases in practice, curiosities, about your travels, reinforcing the story with beautiful photographs. Funny stories will amuse the interlocutor and relieve tension. According to studies, the most attractive professions in the eyes of women are: a doctor, a rescuer, a military man, a businessman. Firefighters, musicians, bodyguards are less popular. If you work in one of these areas, use it in conversation.

The guy's stories about his own family will convince the girl of the seriousness of his intentions. A woman will especially appreciate the love for children.

Other good talking points:

animals (girls value kindness and responsibility);
a healthy lifestyle (smoking and alcohol have long been out of fashion);
further plans (proof that you are a serious and mature person);
interests (women love boring guys);
skills: playing the guitar, sawing with a jigsaw, building model ships (the ability to do something with your hands is valued among women).

In a conversation, you need to show determination, as excessive shyness does not attract women. Women do not like it when a man complains about life, salary and ex-girlfriend. It is worth remembering that the interlocutor will carefully study the profile on the site, so it is advisable to indicate “Friendship and communication” or “Meeting, date” in the purpose of acquaintance. Ladies are sometimes wary of the goal of "Creating a family". Old bachelors declare their desire to marry, who missed time in their youth, and now they rush to start a family, having no experience of living together. Absolutely definitely do not indicate "Rare Encounters".

We told you the main points of filling out the questionnaire. Another 5 minutes to arm yourself with knowledge, and it will not be difficult for you to get to know each other correctly on the Internet. Now we will take a closer look at what to write to a girl, and what is better not to.

I never use pickup methods for several reasons:

1. Normal mature girls have not pecked at the usual pikapersky phrases for a long time.

Only a young girl, or some TP will be interested in a template message in the style of "urgently call me 01, a fire started in my heart when I saw your ava, baby." Write like this only if you really have a fire at home, and pillows in the form of hearts are already burning.

2. Stepping on the path of a pickup truck, you inevitably leave an imprint on your worldview and attitude towards girls in general.

If you succeed in this, then it becomes a habit to treat girls as prey, meat. Yes, you can temporarily solve your current problems, satisfy physical needs. But you run the risk of one day feeling devastation and loneliness, with which none of your mined sheepskins can do anything. But all you need is a girl equal to you.

3. It is unpleasant for girls to realize that they were processed by a “professional”.

Finding out that her natural defenses against wicked men have been bypassed with the help of a universal "opener", she is sure to add herself to the list of cold bitches of this world. And there are plenty of them.

So, what to write to a girl on the Internet?

As we have already found out, the guy should write first. There is no need to hope that you will create a profile and a sea of cool girls will write to you. With those who wrote to me first, I never had anything but friendship. Although friendship is also great. :)

You can, of course, just write "Hi". But she receives a lot of such letters. And even if she liked you outwardly, your shares are listed low. The first phrase to a girl on the Internet should be a little more meaningful.

Study her profile, even if there is not much information, you can usually catch on to something. It is better to take not quantity, but quality.

With this approach, you will have fewer messages left unanswered. And the girls you meet will interest you more, just like you will interest them.

There may be some interesting detail in her photos, which you can notice in the first message.

For example, if she learns to roller skate at the All-Russian Exhibition Center in a ridiculous pose, then we can say that she is very
graceful, even when she loses her balance. Or ask what bearings she uses (after googling the options)

There is no need to look for the little things in the background. It will sound insulting and stupid if you write about some kind of vulgar stone in the background, pretending to be Petrosyan. After all, in the foreground is she, all so beautiful, with a perfect manicure, in a dress, rings and an interesting pose. You need to push off from the part directly related to it.

If the content of the girl's profile is a dark forest for you (and this will happen often) - search, find out, and start a conversation on topics that are interesting to her!

Take advantage of the leads they leave for you. If you see the cryptic title of her favorite book, look for a summary. You don't even have to go to the library! Surely you will have some thoughts about the book. Discuss them with the girl, not forgetting to admire the fact that a beautiful girl reads good literature.

The same with photographs. If you see something that she is clearly interested in, go to google.ru and look for information about it. Thus, creating an interesting conversation is not difficult, and the girl understands that she can talk to you about everything. And this is already 60% success.

And 2 more very important points:

Try to be short and concise in your first post.

Write smart!

Yes, here you are at the Russian language exam. And you are lucky in any case: either in the fact that you just write correctly, or in the fact that you have a bunch of spell-checking services at your fingertips. For example, this one.

What NOT to start dating a girl:

Offer a bed in the first message.

By doing this, you put an end to your profile, and it immediately gets blacklisted. Girls receive whole bags of such spam. Offering her to buy her old bed is also not worth it.

And in general to force acquaintance at once.

Offers to live with you in Butovo together (because you are afraid to return home alone), chat on Skype (because you are afraid to be at home alone) or give birth to a child together (for the same reasons) put the girl in a culture shock. Respect her personal space, and remember that any girl is actually a stronghold of inner purity. Her very essence does not allow her to go with you to all serious things right from the doorstep.

Arrange for her the theater of the absurd or play the game "guess my diagnosis"

Hold off before introducing her to the Kukanostrus galaxy and your seven invisible selves. Go down to the address: Universe, Milky Way, Solar system planet Earth. Perhaps then your inner world will even seem sweet to her, but do not make the immersion too sharp.

Ask trite questions, or questions with an obvious answer.

She is not interested in telling for the hundred thousandth time where she studies, works, or what she does on this site. In the process of communication, you will receive answers to these questions, but this is not suitable for the first message.

Where to meet online?

Here are the most normal dating sites, in my opinion:

Dating.com I started from this site. Of the main advantages - democracy and free lifting of the questionnaire. For some reason, it was here that I had the most successful acquaintances. There are many fake profiles, but they are easy to identify by blank information and just one photo.

loveplanet.com- the most hyped site to date. There are a lot of profiles, here you can really find something interesting if you dig. But lately, unfortunately, he began to demand money for almost everything.

mamba.ru- A good, high-quality resource, a convenient mobile application. You won't go wrong if you choose it.

Datingstyle.ru- dating for informals, mostly gothic. Sparsely populated, but well off. The main plus, of course, is the audience - a lot of interesting people. Although he is a minus.

Love.mail.ru- judging by the rambler statistics, this is the most populous dating site. However, I did not stay long on it. It seemed to me unclear, spammed with false profiles, but nevertheless worthy of attention.

What are you doing tonight, after our date?
Do you think I like you more than you like me?
Hello, can I talk to you? And then all sorts of girls stick around, trying to get acquainted ...
Hello, can you tell me how to cook dumplings?
You have a very happy nose!
Can you tell me the recipe for birch jam?
Hello! Today is an amazing day, can I cheer you up?
Hello! Are you on VK too? And I. Do you play flute? Me neither. See how similar we are!
Do you meet nice young people? Here I am!
You have beautiful eyes, what color are they?
And I bet you can't guess what your name is?
You probably won't give me a chance to meet you... But send me a smile if I'm wrong!
I'm clearly not the first person to want to meet you. But I'm the best! Do you want me to prove it?
Hello! I sell happiness! Do you want me to give it to you for free?
Can you tell me where is the best place to spend my salary?
I'm tired of waiting for you to make the first move. Hello!
You have amazing eyes, I can't tear myself away from them.
I look at you and understand that we definitely need to get to know each other!
Tell me, how many did you send off today? I'm four. Oh, and cheeky girls!
I was staring at your photos and forgot to meet you. Hello!
Do you believe in love at forty-eight glance? And then I look at your pictures for so long that I fall in love!
How did you know I was online?
Let's change? You give me two hundred grams of sadness, and I give you a kilogram of my joy?
Can we talk already or will we just like each other?
Do you remember me? I dreamed about you!
Hello, I was reading an interesting story just now. The guy met the girl, and they lived happily ever after! By the way, do you know how he met her? Said, "Hi, I'm reading an interesting story right now!"
You know, before I met you, I was sure that I was gay!
How about flirting?
Hello! I want to interview you. Tell me what it's like to be the most beautiful girl?
Can you help me learn how to talk to girls?
Hello, I'm doing a census and I want to start with you!
Hello, please change my free time to chat with you?
You are very mistaken if you think that I want to get to know you. I want to invite you on a date!
So two damn attractive people met. Hello!
No, well, if you keep silent all the time, no one will get to know you. I'll help, hello!
You know, I didn't have a very pleasant day. I was upset, but then I saw your avatar.
Can you forgive yourself if you don't answer me?
Have you ever had young people crawling at your feet? And at the hands?
And if I were such a beautiful girl like you, I would get to know myself!
And who are you dating? And come with me!
Hello! I'm writing a book about what girls want. Won't you tell?
A stunning girl like you should have a beautiful font!
Hello! I got lost in life and barely found you, will you lead me out of the dim world of loneliness?
Can I flirt with you?
You know, there are things that are easy to imagine together - black and white, day and night, butter and porridge, you and me ...
Don't want to talk to someone who really likes you?
What questions do you think guys get slapped for?
You have a boyfriend? Maybe you need something better?
Are you in love with your city?
I love dogs very much. Could you tell me what breed is better to have?
Are you a professional stylist?
You are beautiful! Can we switch to "you"?
You spend a lot of time online, can we go to unwind?
You're so beautiful! Or do you know a professional photographer?
Imagine, I wrote you a huge text, and then they turned off the light. So just hello!
Wow, I love this band too! And what is your favorite song?
You have a very cute face!
You have such beautiful eyes! Especially the left one!
Gorgeous legs! And the right one is doubly gorgeous!
I like your mouth ☺
You know, you have such a cute chest! And there are two more of them!
Nice dress! You know, the purse doesn't really fit.
Have you heard the phrase that with whom you will lead, from that you will type? So, I like you, and I decided that I would get enough from you!
It was difficult, but I was able to write to you! Reward with an answer?
Have you ever ridden an escalator? Do you want me to ride?
I think I have amnesia, otherwise I would have written to you!
Do you happen to have a red thread? We would be able to make friends with her.
Your beauty struck me so that I forgot what I wanted to tell you.
Have you ever been offered a hand and a heart? I am a surgeon, I have a lot of them!
Excuse me, can I tweak your plans for tonight?
Didn't you just hit the "I like" button on my photo by accident? No? It's a pity…
I wonder if your inner world matches your photos?
It must be bad to be your friend, because you overshadowed everyone with your beauty!
I miss two things in my life - you and hair.
When I see you, I understand how good it is that I am single!
You know, your hair matches the color of my pillow perfectly.
Must it hurt to fall from heaven?
Girl, does your mother need a son-in-law?
I bet ten thousand that I ask you out on a date and you say no?
Marry me!
Urgent, call an ambulance, I was shot by an arrow of love ...
Give me your sadness I need it for experiments.
Hello! Could you please wake me up tomorrow? I'm afraid to oversleep.
Are you from a fairy tale?
Do you know what love at first sight is? If not, I'll write again!
Are you Alice, my contact?
Girl, are you probably tired of the question about your son-in-law?
I bought borjomi and salami, come eat!
And here I am collecting a harem. Only you are missing.
When are you going to take your first step? I'm tired of waiting and I'm doing it myself! Let's get acquainted!
I've definitely seen you somewhere, can you remind me where?
You are beautiful on the Internet, show yourself in life?
Hello! Amazing places in your photos. Where is it?
You wrote that you love “….” group. Do you have any of their songs on cassettes?
Have you ever seen a really interesting girl?
You have a very familiar face! Were you at the club yesterday?
You know the saying "listen to a woman and do the opposite"? Now, I don't want you to answer me!
I have a great job! Man/Girl to go to the cinema with me. Don't you want to try?
Hello. It's such a good day today. I want to cheer someone up. Maybe you?
Today I saw you in a dream, but you managed to say only your first and last name. And so I found you!
You have such beautiful eyes. I have been looking only at them for a long time, but I do not dare to write.

I'm ready to bet money that you just spend a lot of time surfing YouTube, contact, and other resources and social networks. Why not take advantage of this activity? Meet girls on these sites. In addition, it will help you if you experience discomfort or awkwardness when communicating live, and communication skills will give you some experience for the future.

I bring to your attention a dozen tips, how to behave and meet girls online.

Online dating rules

#1 Always upload only your photos to those accounts that you use for "peaceful purposes" and for meeting girls as well. You should upload the most successful photos - with the most from the girls, if you have already uploaded them somewhere before. Try not to use Photoshop, or very minimally - paint over a pimple that is not typical for you, remove red pupils. Remember: photos should look natural!

#2 Field "", "About me", etc. Try to fill it realistically, but as concisely as possible. The flow of your thoughts is most likely only interesting to you.

#3 Do not try to "show off" - fill out profiles as honestly as possible . The illusion will shatter at the first meeting, and is guaranteed to lead to failure.

#4 Try not to use template dating at all. Do not write banal “Hi. How are you?" - this puts many girls in a stupor and makes them think of you as not the smartest candidate.

#5 Meet with purpose. If you liked a girl on the Internet - don't be lazy, study her page, and it's very important - pay attention to how she presents herself in the photo. This is most often her desired self, and therefore the source of valid compliments.

#6 All people love attention to their own person, but how girls love attention! about affairs, plans, points of view regarding various issues, make a compliment regarding areas important to her - hair color, literacy of writing, an interesting attitude to some issue: show that you are interested in her and her personality in particular.

#7 Speaking of compliments. Do not flatter. Almost nobody likes it. But a good compliment disposes and interests the interlocutor. Use emotional elements - emoticons, dots, but do not go too far - your messages should not consist of only brackets.

#8 Many socially-oriented sites on the Internet have the opportunity to raise your profile in the search. Often this is for sms or all sorts of points. Do not take pity on a couple of SMS - this money will not make the weather good for you, but the girls themselves can start getting to know each other, writing to you!

#9 Dedicated accounts. Apply everything you can. A good example is the forums. Dedicated accounts enjoy great authority and popularity. This does not mean that you need to run to meet girls on the forums, but use it where appropriate.

#10 Dating on the Internet is very dependent on the communication itself. You have to be an interesting, maybe even an extraordinary interlocutor, change opinions, reason (without going too far into philosophy, of course), stimulate the development of a conversation, since this is the main type of contact with a girl on the other side of the screen. Even if you want purely carnal pleasures from a girl, you still need it. There are already enough of all the lost souls who write obscene things on the Internet, so be restrained and attentive!