How to raise a boy to be a real man: tips. How to properly raise a boy in a family: advice from psychologists to parents

Hello, dear readers blog life handmade! The last three published articles I wrote about the shortcomings of the modern school system. I stated that boys and girls being educated together is bad. And she promised to write why. Today I will reveal several important points on how to properly raise a boy so that he grows up as a real man.

What is upbringing

There are many definitions of the concept of education, but I like the one given by the science of psychology.

Education is, first of all, a process. Organized and focused. And in our case, it is aimed at the child.

It turns out that in order to raise a child, you need to have a goal and pick up tools to organize this long process.

It starts at birth and sometimes continues throughout life. Why so long?

In childhood and adolescence, the main educators of the child are parents and significant adults (caregivers, teachers, coaches of different sections). In adulthood, a person educates himself, looks for answers himself, or applies the advice of a psychologist.

As part of this article, I will write about the upbringing of boys, which means the main goal will be to raise a real man.

Who is a real man

This is the topic of endless women's conversations. What should be the only one that will win a woman's heart once and for all?

Each young and not very young maiden has her own standard, but there is one thing in common in it - strong, responsible, caring.

Able to set goals and achieve them. Self-confident and helping to feel confidence in their loved ones.

In general, the person behind whose broad back you can hide and who can solve any problem.

I imagined such an image and immediately felt so pleasant and easy on my soul!

Isn't it great when a man like you loves you?

Truth itself must meet certain criteria real woman to keep that man around.

But we will talk about this in another article.

But many women who dream of relationships with real men forget that character development begins in the cradle.

Raising a son in the tradition of "unisex" or with a bias towards the female side.

Blocking her husband's access to education, they themselves spoil the future, both for themselves and for other women who will be next to their sons.

Therefore, now I will open several main points in raising a boy so that later I will not groan and gasp.

Stages of raising a boy

At different peoples From time immemorial there have been traditions of educating the next generation.

The main idea is that there are several age stages that a boy goes through from birth to adulthood, and in each of them the approach to education changes somewhat.

From birth to 5 years. In some sources there is a border of three years. This is the time when the child does not have a special acceptance of gender. This is a time of close connection with mom, who is the main protector, main educator, pityer and player. No one says that other relatives do not participate in the upbringing and care of the child. It's just that the baby is focused on the mother, is close to her spiritually and physically, fully reflects the mother's worldview and attitude. Everything goes through the prism of my mother's view of the world.
From 5 to 10 years. These boundaries are also conditional. The top point is the onset of puberty. This is the age when power over the boy should go to the pope. Mom should consciously step into the shadows and in every possible way increase the authority of the father in the eyes of the child. In our emancipated society, sometimes it is not possible for many to do this. Someone is raising a child without a father, someone does not respect her husband and in every possible way spoils life for herself, her husband, and her child. The boy wants to copy his dad, it is from him that he will adopt the male model of behavior. But, if mom constantly criticizes dad. Expresses his displeasure to the child. Gets into the relationship of father and son in the moments of education. The child will be at a loss and, apart from neurosis, will not acquire anything useful at this stage of development.
10 to 14 years old. Here the upper limit is the end of puberty. This is the time of those very teenagers that adults find it very difficult to endure. Many peoples at this age had different rituals for the transition of a young man to the adult world. After passing certain rituals and tests, the young man was recognized as a full-fledged member of an adult society with all rights and obligations. During this period, the role of the father in the upbringing of the boy is reduced. The main reference point should be a man from a close circle, to whom the boy should be equal. It could be Godfather, uncle, family friend, sports section coach, teacher. The most important thing is that it has positive features, otherwise you can get a lot of side effects from such following the landmark.

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On this, the upbringing of both a boy and a girl by adults by and large ends.

The child will continue to find examples for himself, think, analyze, change something in himself and his habits, but the foundation is laid in the three stages I have listed.

And, if on some of them developmental features were not taken into account, the mother tried to block everyone or, conversely, ran away from the child early, then the results are deplorable.

And already about what has taken place, confident, responsible, etc. the man is out of the question.

There may be isolated cases of full-fledged men despite inadequate upbringing, but this is already their colossal inner work in adulthood.

How to love a boy without hurting him

The concept of love, like the concept of education, is very vague.

It is unlikely that there will be a mother who will say that she does not love her son.

And yet, the love of a mother can greatly ruin the future of her son.

Mom, the first years of a boy's life, is the main mirror of his self-image.

You can read about the colossal role of mother in the first years of a child's life in my article - ""

And about how to significantly spoil - ""

Proper upbringing of a boy by a mother

Mom can do everything. But if not all, then a lot. That is why you need to think before you do something. As, however, in everything.

What line of behavior of the mother brings up the best features in the boy:

If, mother, she sees a strong son in her and shows it in every possible way, he becomes strong.
When a mother trusts her son with some household chores and sincerely believes that he can handle it. The son also begins to believe in himself.
In the event that a mother allows her son to take care of himself, he learns to be caring.
When mom is not stingy with praise, but not just like that, but for the cause, the boy is ready to move mountains.
If the mother is not shy about showing her love to the boy, is not afraid of her emotions and tears, the boy becomes responsive and is not afraid of his feelings. Boys are naturally very emotional!
If the mother admits she was wrong and asks for forgiveness if she was wrong, then she teaches her son the same.
If the mother respects her husband (or the father of the boy, if they are not raising their son together) and emphasizes those good masculine traits that the son looks like his father. That boy even more wants to imitate dad. He obeys him not because he is afraid, but because he wants to earn his approval.

Help your husband discover his father's instinct

Trusting your husband as much as possible related to the care of children, you solve many problems at the same time:

Facilitate the process of upbringing and care for yourself;
Give your husband the opportunity to get close to the children and feel their importance to them;
Get close to your husband mutual language and understanding.

So many men want to participate in the upbringing and care of children, but after a certain amount of criticism from women, they are eliminated!

Do not repeat the mistakes of the majority, love your husband, involve him wisely and in a feminine way in the process of caring for children.

And, do it from the moment of birth. I gave birth to two boys with my husband and actively urge all future mothers to do so.

Read about our experience and maybe it will help you make a decision.

It is possible to raise a worthy man without a husband, but it is much more difficult.

Wish you strong families, loving husband and well-bred sons!

This is not all that I wanted to talk about the process of raising boys.

This is a big topic and will definitely be continued.

Stay in touch!

Yours sincerely, Margarita Mamaeva

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The period when the upbringing of a 5-year-old boy begins, psychology counts from the moment of his birth. This is the age at which awareness and processing of all useful information collected about the surrounding world. At this time, the child begins to be treated as a mature person who is able to hear arguments, take consistent actions, learn certain moral nuances associated with gender. This is not cute, who, stumbling, takes his first steps. This is already a personality, in the formation of which it is necessary to make age-related and moral adjustments.

Children at this age require approximately the same approach. It is believed that girls are more diligent, and boys are prone to bursts of energy and anxiety, but in fact it all depends on the environment in which the child permanently resides. Big role plays what has been invested in it in the previous five years. A lot in modern world depends on how the child is adapted to society, whether attends Kindergarten whether he is the only one in the family, and even if he is the eldest or the youngest if he has a brother or sister. Education is not edifying teachings, minute-by-minute pulling, forcible introduction of ethical standards through teachings and statements about what is possible and what is not.

This is a mutual process in which adults and children participate, and which is seen by everyone from his own, the only correct point of view. An adult is able to evaluate his actions, their consequences, force himself to perform daily, monotonous actions like making a bed and brushing his teeth, while a child often still cannot imagine the consequences of what has been done and believes that the daily routine can be avoided. The duty and right of an adult who treats a developing personality with respect and understanding is to introduce the necessary knowledge into the baby’s psyche with maximum tact and information, without prejudice to his independence (it doesn’t matter if it’s a boy or a girl).

The child requires and deserves love, but this feeling should not be blind and all-forgiving, otherwise the further formation of the human personality will turn into a hard-to-control, and then completely uncontrollable process, which adults will not be able to cope with. 5 years is the age when a boy or girl should understand that the attitude of parents towards them does not depend on gender or who they wanted to have. He must know that he is loved for who he is, because he is the fruit of the union of two parents, for the very fact of his existence, but he must earn the further right to this love.

Crime and punishment, love and affection

Children at the age of 5, especially boys, are prone to pranks, bickering, deviation from the rules, which seem undeniable to their parents. This age feature. The child is already sufficiently fluent in speech to defend the rights that, as it seems to him, he received when he entered a certain age. This is especially evident if the child is alone in the family, and adults disagree on his behavior. Where he considers the punishment fair, and the grandmother intercede, arguing that he is still very small. Particularly difficult situations arise when adults enter into disputes about views on, moving on to mutual insults with a child.

This does not mean that the boy should be punished for the slightest offense, but excessive gentleness, as well as excessive severity, often leads to the opposite result. At this age, punishment is necessary, but when resorting to it, certain conditions should be remembered.

Punishment is necessary if the child has already committed such actions before and has been repeatedly, gently and clearly explained why this should not be done. , because it sometimes injures not only the psyche. It is better to deprive of something that will have a tangible effect, for example, the opportunity to play a computer game or a long-awaited trip to the zoo, circus.
The process should be carried out without the participation of outsiders. If he was complained about on the street, it is better to take the child home and talk where he will not be subjected to public humiliation. This is true even in cases where the offense is significant.
The measure of influence should not concern vital things. You can’t punish with deprivation of dinner, sleep, taking away clothes, forcing you to experience humiliation and helplessness. It is better to ask to eliminate the consequences of what has been done, for example, to apologize to a relative or loved one.
At this age follows and associated responsibilities. Misdemeanors against girls or women should be punished with a detailed explanation of the inadmissibility of their repetition.

Adulthood: Threat or Necessity

How to raise a 5 year old boy? What should be paid special attention to? Education at this age includes preparation for a more responsible stage in his life. After all, the child will soon go to school. This is an additional burden for both parents and children, because today some skills are already required there. This is much easier if the child attends kindergarten, but mom and dad should also work with him. No matter how difficult home schooling is, in no case should children be told that they are stupid, stupid, incapable of perceiving information. This will not only discourage further activities, but also significantly underestimate the self-esteem of the baby.

And even more so, you should not intimidate him with the fact of the upcoming trip to school. It is better to explain to him a hundred times that he himself needs knowledge, to show tact and patience, perseverance and the gift of persuasion. In some cases, the child can be forced to learn information, and in some cases, you can try to explain everything to him. In certain situations, you just need to learn the task. If it doesn’t work out, buy a course of gaming, computer training. Adulthood is not a terrible ghost looming before your eyes, but simply the next stage in life.

Love can do more

How to raise a 5 year old boy? First of all, love. Constantly emphasize your love, do not be shy to talk about it, do not be afraid to once again encourage, pat on the head, kiss, comb, straighten clothes, hug you. Not blindly indulging every whim, but also not withholding something that can be given because of trouble at work, family conflict, or simply not feeling well.

There is no need to be afraid that he will grow up spoiled and pampered, because he still has a lot to see in the adult stage of life, which is not far off. You should not tell him that he is small, but it is also premature to think that he has already grown enough at the age of five to fully realize his actions. It is necessary to talk with him on various topics, answer questions that interest him. It is better to do this directly and honestly, without fear that he will not understand.

It needs to be taken seriously. First of all, he should be respected and loved as a person who was born, grew up and has already partly formed.

How to properly raise boys is a difficult process, a psychology that should be treated with responsibility. To raise boys, to grow real men out of them, you need to make a lot of effort, be patient, and forget about love.

After the baby is born, all parents want and try to protect the child from possible dangers who are waiting for him in an unfamiliar, so unusual environment. Time runs the baby is growing up. He starts walking on his own. And it is during such a period that parents should realize (especially mother) that their baby is a personality, the baby develops an individual character, hobbies, desires and personal needs arise, the baby cannot always be with them.

Without a doubt, the boy will need his mother's care, attention and support for quite a long time, but gradually he will begin to move away from his mother, spend more time with friends, and engage in his favorite hobby. The peculiarities of raising boys are mainly not to put pressure on the baby with strong guardianship (whether he is 4 years old, 5 or 7 years old), following this path, you risk raising a classic "sissy".

It is difficult for a child to decide who he loves more: mommy or daddy. For a baby, this is an impossible choice! Both parents are the most important people in the world for him. While the boy is small, he is more often with his mother than with his father. Dad is at work, and the boy sees him mostly before bed and on weekends.

But over time, the baby grows up and strives more for dad. This cannot be prevented in any way. Psychologists give different tips on raising boys, and the main one is to allow dad and son to spend most of their time together (especially if the baby is 5-7 years old), so that they have their own male secrets, and they can do exclusively male work.

Believe me, such a pastime with dad will be of great benefit in the development of the boy's personality. At this age, he gradually realizes who he is, and what role he will have to play in the future - these are all the features of raising boys.

From this article you will learn

Born to be a man

A win-win option to show your joy at raising a true man is to call the baby a real man's name. That is why it is better not to take the dual names that women also wear. But the accepted attributes for boys in the form of blue clothes and blue strollers are not very important in the formation of a courageous character. It is rather a signal of parents that their man is growing up.

A strong and reliable defender - and the language doesn’t really turn around to say this about a crumb who hasn’t even learned to speak yet, but grabs his parents by the hair with small grasping fingers.

However, you can look at it differently, clenched hands are a real fist, the requirement to constantly suck is the makings of a healthy appetite, and loud screams are the commands of a young commander.

Annual autonomy

Boys a year are very fond of scandal. They find a reason in any situation to show their character, achieve their goal and force others to obey. Upbringing one year old baby the main stage in the formation of personality. In a year, in addition to character, other qualities are established in a baby: perseverance, determination and self-confidence.

Treat such a phenomenon with calmness and patience, do not even try to “remake” his character, be patient and show indulgence. Do not be afraid to once again show your love for him. During this period, boys need it no less than girls. Parental care, warmth and hugs will not bring him any harm.

How to raise a boy? The question parents ask all the time. It's important not to overdo it. The kid needs the so-called self-actualization, self-affirmation. Therefore, one should not treat his requests, opinions as something stupid and unnecessary.

strong unit

At the age of three, the baby begins to separate his personality from his parents. Now he has formed psychological independence, and he is looking for a model of behavior that suits him. Children during this period study the relationship between people of the same and different sexes, they learn what is good and bad, how to do it and how not to do it.

At this age, the boys have a growing desire to work with men, to be brave in different situations, cautious with ladies, to devote themselves to work, in general, to be the same as his dad, grandfather, brother. The kid is looking for himself and takes his place in society, even if he is in the family and peer group for now.

How to raise a boy at 3 years old? This is the most opportune moment to lay the right life directions, to demonstrate the behavior patterns characteristic of men. The main and first example in this should certainly be dad. In addition, the boy pays attention not only to advice on the behavior of men, but also to how dad treats the rest of the family.

non-male occupation

If you see your five-year-old son in his dress and his lips are made up, then most likely you will be horrified. But you don't need to panic right away. It's probably just a game, a way to get to know the world around him. But if you notice that a son at the age of 5-7 is more and more drawn to women's things or his behavior causes you any suspicions, do not be lazy and consult a psychologist.

As a rule, such behavior is provoked by the usual problems in the family and incorrect educational methods. Boys sometimes have the same violations, where a woman has a strong, superior role, and a man decides practically nothing or no one is interested in his opinion. Raising a boy of 5 years old should in no case make mistakes.

It happens that a passion for girly clothes in boys manifests itself when their younger sister grows up. And most often this happens if parents cannot give their attention in equal shares. So that a boy at four or five years old can “come to his senses”, praise him more, say out loud that he is a beloved son, a good boy. Show it in action.

You need to be careful! If your baby avoids boys, prefers female roles in mother-daughter games, this indicates that he is afraid to be in the role of a boy !!!

Boys are much more sensitive than girls. They are more afraid of the dark time of the day, quarrels, screams and tears of their mother. Boys are much more likely to develop stuttering, enuresis (urinary incontinence) and fear of being alone. They are much more closed in themselves, hold back emotions and are more silent. Traces of such experiences can be found on the toy: You need to be concerned if it is very worn in some places.

Boys don't grow up to be men because they were born in a man's body. They feel strong and begin to adopt male behavior only when they are brought up and have the opportunity to observe the behavior of their father, brothers, whom they trust. Otherwise, the boys will be drawn to their mother, and in the future this will lead to conflict: the body of a man, and the character of a woman. The baby should be protected from complexes. And you, thus, will be calm for your son.

To know how to raise a 5-year-old boy, you need to read books on the psychology of children, attend several lectures by child psychologists.

What is needed for the proper upbringing of boys

Read fairy tales about knights, rescuers in the title role;
Play football, basketball, karate, fencing with your son more often;
Get him toys for both boys and girls. There will be nothing wrong if the boy plays gardener or cook. This will not affect him in any way, but he will learn to worry and take care of loved ones;
Dad should bring friends so that the baby can observe the relationship of adult men at home;
Visit grandfather more, talk about relatives in a good tone;
Mom is obliged to tell good words about dad (even if he does not live with his family). Each of us has qualities that can be praised;
Emphasizing the courageous deeds of the son and ignoring his weaknesses - after all, this happens to everyone.

How not to make a "mama's boy" out of a son

Do not let the boy sleep in the parent's bed after a year (especially bad if the boy sleeps with mom and dad after 5 - 7 years);
Do not blunt the initiative of the child;
Do not buy your son toys that you really like;
Allow him to be friends with children of different character;
Do not demand unquestioning obedience from him;
If someone took away a toy from a baby, do not try to scold the offender yourself and take the toy, the baby must return it to himself;
Throwing everything, to take the side of the son in conflict situations with peers. Give him the opportunity to solve the problem on his own;
One should not feel sorry for him too much, make allowances when another relative asks for diligent behavior from him.

Do children need punishment?

The answer is yes. But physical punishment may not act as punishment. It will be enough just to deprive the kid of watching his adored cartoon or to ban sweets, maybe to postpone visiting the zoo or circus. It all depends on the degree of the "crime" done.

It is especially difficult to raise a child of 5 years. If you began to notice that the boy is behaving more aggressively, he starts to fight first, takes out other children - these signals should not be ignored. A 5-year-old child is still modeling his behavior. Everyone should throw out their bad emotions, but you will have to teach the baby to do it differently. Your goal is to channel the energy of the crumbs into a peaceful direction.

Enroll the boy in some section or arrange at home, for example, pillow fights, and it would be even better to combine everything. You will notice how your child will become calmer, his physical and mental health will improve, and therefore health will be stronger.

Raising a boy of 4 years is no more difficult when he is 7. You just need to give him enough attention.

In the upbringing of boys and the question of appearance plays an important role. After all a real man can't be messy. But even this does not mean making a clean boy out of a boy who will be afraid to go play football because his uniform will get dirty.

Try not to blame or yell at the child, especially in front of strangers. So you will form an inferiority complex in him. And under no circumstances should you try to realize your personal childhood dreams in your son.

Do not forget that your baby is a person, he has his own dreams and needs. And, one way or another, you need to get used to the idea that your baby will choose his own path in life, different from yours. Do not keep the boy always near - you can make both him and yourself unhappy.

The main thing is to love your son, listen to him and believe that it is the Real Man that is growing up with you.

According to psychologists, the upbringing of the boy should be done first of all by his father. After all, this is a future man, and the corresponding character must be formed in childhood. The important role of the father in the upbringing of the boy is also emphasized by the famous pediatrician Yevgeny Komarovsky. It is he who should become an example for the child, because otherwise no words will work here.

You can say anything to your son, give the right instructions, and so on. But if he sees that dad behaves differently, adheres to some other values, then nothing good will come of it. Therefore, the father always needs to monitor not only his words, but also his actions. After all, it is they who, as you know, paint a man. However, mothers also need to take an active part in the educational process. good result in this case, it can only be achieved by joint efforts.

How to properly raise a boy, and what to look for

First of all, you should find an approach to the child. With some children, you need to be more strict, while others, on the contrary, are constantly looking for support from adults. Parents must find individual approach. Raising a boy, however, like a girl, according to the standard scheme is unlikely to succeed. This is the most important point from which you need to build on. You must be a real authority for the child. Only in this case can we expect that education will bear fruit. You can argue on this topic endlessly. After all, education is a long, painstaking process. You can not instruct the baby from time to time, and leave him for a long time left to himself.

Every family has its own principles of upbringing, and rightly so. However, it is worth highlighting some common points. These are, in particular:

Developing a child's self-esteem;
awareness of the need to bring what has been started to the end;
self-discipline;
a responsibility.

All this is very important. The boy should have self-esteem, so in no case should he be insulted. You can scold, but only for the cause. In this case, you must immediately explain the reason for your anger. Also, be sure to explain why this is not possible. A child should understand from childhood what is good and what is bad. In addition, it is very important that the boy learns one simple truth - everything that has been started must be brought to the end. You can help your son by, say, stacking toys. But at the same time, one should not finish the work begun by the child. Otherwise, the boy will quickly realize that it is possible to shift the solution of the problem onto the shoulders of another person.

Not less than important point- self-discipline. Already at the age of 3, the baby may have a range of responsibilities that he must fulfill. It is clear that we are talking about the most elementary things - to put a plate in the sink, brush your teeth, and so on.

The boy must understand - there are things that need to be done, regardless of their desires. It is clear that it is important not to go too far here. The approach should be quite delicate. In addition, a sense of responsibility should be developed in a boy from childhood. Then it will be much more difficult to do it. Gaps in upbringing appear very quickly, so you need to pay attention to even the most insignificant signs.

It should be noted that the boy begins to reach out to his father more at about 5 years old. Until that time, he will be a "mother's child." This situation is quite normal, so there is definitely no need to worry here. At the same time, the main points of purely masculine behavior are laid down precisely through communication with the father. Accordingly, it is important to catch this attraction in a timely manner and devote as much time as possible to the child. Parents may have different priorities. Some want their son to grow up as a sports boy, others strive to give him as much useful information as possible, others try to instill a love of work from childhood. Of course, the best option is to find the perfect balance between all this. After all, comprehensive development is important in terms of shaping the character of a person, his life values and priorities.

The educational process must be built taking into account the age of the son. Often you can hear recommendations about the need to communicate with the child as an adult. In fact, not everything is so clear-cut here. Of course, the son must be made to feel like a person who has not only duties, but also rights. At the same time, one should not forget that adults and children perceive the same things in completely different ways. Awareness of this simple fact is essential in terms of education. Everything needs to be explained so that the baby learns this information, understands what they want from him. Otherwise, he simply will not understand what his parents want.

Particular attention should be paid to such a moment as punishment. It's an integral part educational process. However, it should be borne in mind that the punishment must necessarily correspond to the misconduct. If you show excessive severity, then the boy will quickly withdraw into himself, become timid and insecure. Excessive connivance will lead to the opposite result. The child feels permissiveness very well. If misbehavior is not nipped in the bud, it will only get worse over time. Particularly difficult in terms of education - teenage years. The child feels like a real rebel, striving to change his usual way of life. Here it is important not to lose trust with your son, so that he does not withdraw and move away. You also need to tell the boy how best to act in this or that case, because you already have some life experience behind you.

Sometimes a mother has to raise her son on her own, without a father. The reasons for this can be very different - this is a completely different topic. In this case, it is recommended to adhere to the basic principles of education given above. It is clear that it is difficult for a mother to show some things by her own example. In this case, it is desirable that one of the stronger sex relatives - grandfather, uncle, and so on - devote more time to the child. The boy definitely needs a good example before his eyes. Moreover, it should be borne in mind that children copy the behavior of adults unconsciously. Therefore, such an example should only be positive.

If a son is born in the family, then, sooner or later, the parents begin to wonder how to raise him as a real man. But each of them has his own vision of the “correctness” of this process.

Moreover, opinions can sometimes be even diametrically opposed. And in order to achieve results, parents need a unified strategy.

And only experienced teachers and psychologists can help to develop it. What do they think about raising a little man, you can find out from this article.

Raising a child - how to raise a boy correctly.

As you know, boys have three stages of development, each of which has its own characteristics of education: up to 5-6 years old, 5-6 - 14 years old and from 14 to adulthood.

Until the age of 5-6, the boy is most attached to his mother. In this period, first of all, it is necessary to give him a feeling of absolute love and security.

From 6 to 14 years old, boys awaken an interest in masculinity. They are increasingly looking at the stronger sex, its interests and behavior. At this time, it is very important to establish a strong emotional connection with the father. The main educational moment is the development of a harmonious, comprehensively developed personality.

For a child of 14 years of age, communication with parents is already receding into the background. But he is in great need of a male mentor, thanks to whose influence he can prepare for adulthood. During this period, it is important to maintain emotional contact with your son and wisely direct his energy in the right direction.

Tips on how to raise a real man from a boy

The role of a father in raising a son is no less important than that of a mother. Therefore, here we will give some advice for dads:

Start taking part in the fate of your child as early as possible. Talk to the pregnant mother about your hopes, take care of the baby, tune in with him on the same wavelength.

Find time to fulfill your fatherly responsibilities. Play with children, frolic, teach, walk. Otherwise, the future problems of your sons will certainly affect you.

Do not save emotions! Feel free to hug your son. Have fun with him, praise him for his achievements, do it often and sincerely. And remember: it is the lack of paternal affection that most often causes cravings for men in adulthood.

Remember discipline. In relations with your son, try not to shift the solution of difficult issues to women's shoulders. Calmly but firmly, set standards and demand that they be met.

Be sure to try to listen to your child, do not discard his feelings and experiences.

The successful upbringing of your son largely depends on your teamwork with your mother. Therefore, be sure to discuss all global issues of education with her.

Raising a boy from birth - how to raise a real man

Raising a boy up to a year is considered the prerogative of the mother. But in order to fully develop, the baby needs the attention of both parents. The main recommendations to follow in the infancy period:

Constantly talk with the baby;
Engage not only in the mental development of the child, but also in physical training;
To teach a child not only to sleep in his own crib, but also to spend some time in it;
Encourage all manifestations of independence;
Don't forget your own example.

How does it work in the case of an incomplete family? It is also possible to raise a boy as a real man without a father.

But at the same time, not only a double burden falls on the mother, but also the obligation to find a good role model for the little man. This role can be played by a family friend, grandfather or one of the relatives.

The mother must remain a woman. In order to properly instill masculine qualities in her little son, in no case can she become masculine. And in order for the child to have before his eyes an example of communication between a husband and wife, it is desirable to communicate more often with complete families.

The educational process largely consists of mistakes. Try to minimize the most common:

Indulging the whims of the child;
Lack of consistency (sometimes scolding, then praising for the same actions);
Inconsistency between mom and dad;
Criticism when compared with other children;
Excessive severity, the desire to educate in one's own image;
Making excessive claims;
Quarrels in front of the son;
Lack of personal example of correct behavior.

The desire for self-affirmation is inherent in men from a very young age. Particular attention should be paid to instilling leadership qualities in a son before he enters school. Here are some tips to help you raise your son to be a leader:

Give your son freedom of choice;
Hail his independence;
Encourage independence and decision making;
Let me have my own opinion;
Teach responsibility for actions.

To raise a boy as a real man, one read article, of course, is not enough. This requires parental wisdom, prudence and patience. But, thanks to the tips and recommendations described above, it is easier to take the first steps in the right direction and make fewer mistakes in the educational process.