How to say you don't like a girl. How to tell a girl that you don't like her. Invite her on an adventure with you

Then we went back home with her, and, you know, she’s such a sweetheart! - You're completely crazy about her. Egoism, a cute guy with bangs, walked around the room. - That's what I'm trying to explain! - Common sense jumped up from his chair and pointed his finger towards the girl sitting at the computer desk. - It won’t take long for you to go crazy! - And what? This is only the second time I’ve mentioned her. - the girl turned her head towards Conscience - Isn’t it? - My status in society calls me to tell the truth. - she gracefully crossed her legs and continued - You ate all our brains with a dessert spoon with these conversations about her . - As always, short and clear. I can not do that! In general... Everything is bad for me, in general. Dumb life! - Pessimism, who entered the room, was, to put it mildly, out of shape this time. Otherwise, as usual. Gloomily looking at everyone present, he sat down not far from Realism; lately they had been very similar. - Well, what should we do? - asked Common Sense, glancing sideways towards Intuition, to which the girl always unconditionally obeyed. - Come on, well, he will fall in love and pass. It's not for long! - Optimism reassured everyone - And don’t look at me like that, I also know that same-sex love is nothing good. She's just a teenager, I'm telling you. And Optimism patted the girl on the head, still sitting thoughtfully at the table. - Yes, I also think that this will pass quickly. - Intuition finally spoke. - Besides, the Muse will come soon. She will write about her Nika and leave us alone. - Of course, she will come. - Realism responded gloomily. “Muse, do you hear, come back, I’ll forgive you everything...” the girl sang thoughtfully, turning to the computer. - Where did you go when I need you so much? - Oooh, it's starting. - Intuition whistled softly. - Well, I'm off. Please consult with me before posting. “Okay, ok, I’ll get some advice,” the girl said without looking up from the keyboard. - Stop! "like" with or without a soft sign? “You can’t do this without me...” sighing, common sense sat down next to him. - Yes, just don’t interfere. - said the girl, without taking her eyes off the monitor. - What can I insert here? The vulgarity, which had been quietly reading NC before, giggled. Intuition poked her in the side with her elbow and sat down with the girl on the other side. - What do you have here? - Yes, here... - the girl made a vague gesture with her hand towards the monitor. - I don’t know what to write here. - Uh-uh... - What's here? What do you have here? - Without allowing Intuition to finish, Sense of Humor asked. - Nothing, nothing! - Vulgarity hastily blocked the computer. - Don't interfere! She already has humor in almost every fanfic, but now she’s fallen in love, she needs to write something vulgar. - The biggest struggle in me is the struggle between Sense of Humor and Vulgarity. - So! Let's get out of here, everyone! - the girl shook her head angrily, trying to collect her thoughts. - And you, Sense, I’ll ask you to stay. - I didn’t really want to! - Optimism proudly left the room, followed by everyone else. - Let me help, that's all. - Sense leaned towards the monitor. - Well, it’s working out well. - Is it true? - the girl looked hopefully at Common Sense and tapped her fingers on the keyboard again. - Certainly. - I made myself more comfortable on the chair, because the arrival of the muse is always a long time coming. Moreover, if with her story the girl decided to prove that she “doesn’t like Nika at all.”

It's not easy to admit to a girl that you don't like her. Perhaps she is your close friend and has developed romantic feelings for you that you are not ready to reciprocate. Or you barely know each other and don’t want to offend the girl. In any case, it will be better for both of you if you gently but honestly tell the girl that you don't like her.

Steps

Part 1

How to gently tell the truth

Choose a suitable time and place. If you have come to a certain decision, then you need to act quickly. Try to choose the right time and place so as not to hurt the girl too much. It's not good if you catch a girl by surprise and take her aside when she's chatting with her friends, or tell her the news when she's studying for a test. Try to choose a secluded place and a moment when the girl will not be busy with important matters or stressed.

• Of course, the perfect moment may never come. It is enough to choose more or less suitable circumstances. Make sure there are no prying ears nearby and the girl is in a normal mood.

1. Say something nice first, but don't give her false hope. Of course, you don't need to say that she is the most beautiful girl in the world, but try to soften the subsequent news. Say: “You wonderful person” or “It’s always a pleasure to communicate with you,” to show your kind attitude, but without romantic sentiments. Think carefully about your words in advance so that they do not contain unnecessary meanings.

   • Keep your distance when you speak so that the girl does not misunderstand you. You should use closed body language and look away slightly to the side. Demonstrate that you are not looking for intimacy.
   • Try to maintain eye contact to show respect, but don't stare at her or she'll misunderstand you.

2. Tell the truth. This is a difficult moment, so it’s better not to delay. Don’t hesitate, otherwise the girl may get confused and even think that you want to ask her out on a date. You need to tell the truth so as not to hurt the girl’s feelings too much. Make it clear that you are saying this because you want to be honest with her and don't want to hurt her. Take a deep breath and admit it.

   • Say something like: “I know you like me. Alas, I don’t feel any reciprocal feelings. I respect you very much, that's why I'm talking about this. I don’t want you to find out everything from others.”

3. Listen to the girl's answer. We'll have to be patient. Surely, after what has been said, you will have a desire to quickly get away to avoid awkwardness. Understand that she will likely be overwhelmed, so be respectful and don't leave right away. If she wants to say something in response, allow her to do so, but do not turn the conversation into a scandal and do not raise your tone.

   • Try saying, “I'm really sorry this happened,” but don't apologize. After all, a person cannot control his or her romantic feelings.
   • If the girl bursts into tears, try to calm her down, but do not drag out the conversation. Don't give false hopes.

4. Let me know if you want to remain friends. Tell the truth. If you barely know each other and don’t want to continue communicating at all, then put an end to the conversation. If you are in a friendly relationship or the girl is interesting to you as a person, offer to become or remain friends. Of course, she may roll her eyes or rashly refuse such a prospect, since people often say such words just for the sake of decency, but if you really want to be friends, then offer this option again when the girl comes to her senses a little.

   • For example, say: “You are a wonderful person and I would like to be your friend. I understand that you are not yet ready to respond to such an offer.”
   • You can also say: “Everyone offers to remain friends in this situation, but I’m quite serious.”

5. End the conversation on a good note. Try to end a difficult conversation on a good note. Thank the girl for the conversation, remind her of your offer to remain friends, or say something nice and walk her to the place where you met. You can try to defuse the situation with humor, but it won't always work. It is important to end the conversation on a good note so that the girl does not consider you heartless.

   • Say: “I hope you’re not too upset. I wish you well” or “I am very flattered by the interest of such a girl.”
   • Try not to say platitudes like “You'll soon meet the right guy,” because the girl may be offended. This is not what she wanted to hear from you.

6. Give the girl time if you want to remain friends. If you really want to continue communicating with a girl, then do not rush to invite her to spend time in the same company. It may take her a few weeks or months to get you out of her head, so dating won't be appropriate for now. Be friendly when meeting casually, but leave the initiative to the girl so as not to invite her ahead of time.

   • When meeting, say hello, smile and ask “How are you?” If she behaves deliberately distantly, then there is no need to put pressure.
   • If a girl doesn't want to be friends, then respect that choice.

   Part 2

   How to convey bad news differently

   1. Conversation in person. If you want to give a girl the respect she deserves, it's better to explain yourself face to face. Alas, this is not always possible. Perhaps the girl lives in another city or you don’t yet have the opportunity to meet in person, you barely know each other and don’t want to be left alone to break the news. There can be many reasons. Consider carefully whether you absolutely must meet in person or if you can explain things differently.

      • If you value a good relationship with a girl, then the rules of decency require you to talk to her in person.

   2. Call the girl. Explaining things over the phone is almost as difficult as in a face-to-face conversation. If you don't have her number, then contact the girl's friends (don't act like you want to ask her out!) and try to talk on the phone as friendly and sensitive as possible. Say something like what you would say in person: “I am very flattered by your interest, but you deserve to know that I cannot reciprocate your feelings.” Listen to the girl's answer. It won't be easy, but you'll feel better after the conversation. Talking on the phone is usually a little easier than talking in person.

      • Say “It’s hard for me to say this, but you need to know that I don’t have feelings for you in return. I didn’t want to hurt you, but I think it’s better to tell the truth right away.”

   3. Send a message. Of course, report important information via SMS is not the best solution, and the girl won’t really like to find out the truth that way. However, if she is very persistent and you don't want to meet in person, then send a short message to close the deal. Subsequently, the girl will appreciate the fact that you yourself communicated your feelings, and did not shift the dirty work to others.

      • For example, write: “Hi, I know you like me and I appreciate it. Unfortunately, I cannot reciprocate your feelings. I think you should know the truth.”

   4. Write an email. Another way to explain yourself to a girl is to send a short and delicate letter. Email is not the most personal way to talk, but it is fine if you communicate frequently through letters. In addition, writing allows you to express yourself in more detail, unlike messages. Don't write too much, be polite and end your letter on a good note. For example:

   5. Write a note. Another way to convey bad news is to write a handwritten note. This is a more personal approach than a letter or text because she will know that you took the time to handwrite the note and choose your words carefully. Your note should be short and polite. It is better to give the note after class so that the girl does not read it in the middle of class and burst into tears in front of strangers.

      • In 2-3 sentences, state that you have no reciprocated romantic feelings. Enter your name. Give the note personally to the girl so that others do not read it.

   Part 3

   What not to do

   1. Don't initiate others before talking to the girl. If you value a girl as a person, then do not rush to tell your friends, the girl’s friends and strangers about your feelings. Show respect, even if you don't care about her at all. Talk to her before others know.

      • Put yourself in the girl's shoes - how would you feel if you heard similar news from other people?
      • If a girl's friends are interested in your attitude towards her, first explain to the girl and only then answer the questions.

   2. Don't talk to the girl in front of strangers. It's better not to explain yourself in front of other people. It may seem easier to approach a girl at a party or when she's with friends, but you'll catch her off guard and make her even more upset because she'll have a harder time processing what happened around other people. It's not always possible to catch a girl alone, but try to talk in private.

      • There is no need to embarrass a girl in the presence of girlfriends and friends. Respect other people's feelings and the right to personal secrets.

   3. Do not lie. Guys often make this mistake and mislead a girl because they are afraid to tell the truth. There is no need to give false hopes like “I’m not ready for a relationship yet, but anything is possible in the future,” “You’re great for me, but I can’t afford to fall in love,” or “I need time to get over another girl.” This may seem like it will soften the blow, but it will only prolong her suffering. Don't make unrealistic promises out of a desire to make things easier for yourself.

      • Make it clear that you have no romantic feelings for her and you are not considering dating in the future. The sooner she understands this, the sooner she will get back to normal.

   4. Don't insult the girl. You should not assume that a little rudeness will help you clearly express your point of view. Don't tell a girl that you like a different type because she's too talkative or not smart enough for you. Also don't say what you like more attractive girl from the class. Suffice it to say that your feelings are not mutual.

      • Don't say “I have nothing to say to you” or “You're a little annoying.” There is no need to offend an already wounded girl.

I do not like her
Polina's higher education in Israel was not to her liking. Who needs a female geologist, especially at the age of about 40, who was educated in Russia? No one. And Polya began to go from house to house, cleaning up the rich old women’s houses. Out of habit, her arms and legs hurt, but she endured: the family needed money. When she bought an apartment in installments for 28 years and a car, Polya thought: will it last for a long time with such intensive work? And I realized that no. What to do? And she decided to take a hairdressing course. I paid a fairly large sum, and with hope for the future, began to study.
How many difficulties she had to endure while she mastered a new specialty. And so the study came to an end, the hands finally began to obey the craftswoman. She gained clients who liked her work. They even paid her small tips and gave her gifts. Polya rejoiced and longed for independent creativity.
...This hot day started as usual. Alla, her teacher, was supposed to come later that day, and she and Leia, the second student, remained alone in the hairdresser in the morning. Leah was brushing the hair of a thin young Israeli woman, and they were cheerfully exchanging phrases in Hebrew. Around 9 am, a poorly dressed old man came in. Small, puny, he busily looked around the work room and called to Polya with a hooked finger:
- Lady! Do your students give haircuts for 15 rubles? (that’s what he said! He forgot about the shekels at that moment)?
“They’re cutting your hair,” answered Polya, “Sit down!” What luxurious gray curls you have! Rare at your age. How do you want to cut your hair?
-Are you actually a student? Otherwise you will charge me dearly. You are not a girl, a grown woman. What is your name, tell me? Suddenly it will be necessary to make a claim, but I don’t know to whom.
- I am a student, and I study at this age, because no one here needs my higher education, my name is Polina, or Polya.
“Aron,” the old man introduced himself, “Aron Goldberg, I’m from the Moscow region, and you?”
- I am from Perm. How to cut your hair?
“As short as possible, hot,” the old man’s hair was coarse, it holds its shape well.
- If I like the haircut, I’ll pay twice as much. Try your best, Polenka! I appreciate good work.
Polya cut the old man’s hair, he began to shower her with compliments and put money in her hand - 15 shekels. Polya grinned, but remained silent. Cunning old man!
- Rejoice, Polya, I will be your regular customer. I am delighted with your work.
Polya and Leia laughed after he left. The old man, apparently, is no longer right in the head. He talks about rubles, he promised to pay more...what will you take from him? How poorly dressed, poor fellow. Probably his wife died and he lives alone.
Half an hour later Aron appeared again.
- Can my friend, Polechka, come to you for a haircut?
- Please, I have free time at 12. I am waiting.
Aron came not with a friend, but with a small, as if withered, old woman with a dissatisfied face and three hairs on her head. She, tapping her cane, walked to Polina's workplace and carefully examined the woman. The old man noticed her glance.
“This is Polya,” said Aron, “And this is my friend Shifra.” We have known each other for about seventy years, she also knew my parents.
- Aron, you talk a lot. Is this the student? – asked the old woman, “She doesn’t have much time left before retirement, but she’s still studying.” Okay, let him cut it.
“Don’t insult me,” Polya said sternly. “If you are not satisfied with my age, you can go to another hairdresser.”
“Shipher is happy with everything,” Aron said softly, “she’s just not having the best day today.” better mood. Happens. Just like each of us. Don't make noise, Shifrochka, don't convey your mood to others. You see, the girls are working, trying.
Shifra looked at the craftswomen suspiciously.
-Are you going to get a haircut or not?
“It will be,” said Aron, “for sure.” Right, Cipher?
- I'm asking your lady.
- I'm not his lady. I’m going to get my hair cut, so cut my hair…..,” the old woman began to give instructions.
“Please, be silent,” asked Polya, “I understand everything.” No need to speak hand in hand.
Polya cut the grumpy woman’s hair the way she wanted, but instead of gratitude, she heard the words:
-Aron, where did you find this old woman? Look how she cut my hair, there is no hair left on my head. Armless! Aron cut my hair well, but I...
- Cipher, what can you do if you don’t have such Thick hair? – the old man asked diplomatically.
“The old idiot,” said Shifra, grabbed a stick and, without paying, went outside, “he found a hairdresser.” No, I definitely don’t like her: fat, ugly, no charm. No I do not like.
Aron embarrassedly put 15 shekels on the bedside table for Paul.
He left, and Polya burst into tears. Why did this old woman offend her so much? She tried so hard to please her. Baba Yaga, only the stupa is missing, but...
“Don’t cry, Porlyushka,” Leia told her, “There are so many fools in the world.”
- Leia, it’s a shame, why?
Alla came in half an hour. We told her this story. She laughed:
- Polya, this is a baptism of fire. I've seen so many of these in my life! Smile! One day she came to me...
At this time, the door opened and a smiling Aron entered the hairdresser.
- Polenka, I promised you 30 rubles, but I gave you 15. Sorry. Here are 15 more. Forgive the old man, my brain is no longer thinking.
- No need, a haircut costs 15 shekels.
- No, old Aron keeps his promises, don’t consider me a liar.
Polya smiled. She felt good and calm. Not everyone is as boorish as this old woman - God's dandelion.
- Come in, Aron, I’m always glad to see you... just without your picky and impudent friend. Do you agree?
- I agree, Polenka. I'll definitely come back as soon as my hair grows out. Just don’t refuse me one thing: may I kiss your hand?
September 2010

Where did this stupid expression come from - “women's collective”?

In far, far away Kenya there is a village inhabited only by women. It's called Umoja, which means "unity" in Swahili. The village was founded twenty years ago by Samburu women. Before this, according to the traditions of the tribe, they were completely powerless: they were equated to cows or agricultural implements. Samburu can beat their wives, mock them, even kill them. The poor souls bought their safety dearly: their husbands beat them brutally to “turn women back into women.” But they won, and they were left alone.

A few years ago, I wrote to Umoja Project Coordinator Jane Wilner and asked her to share the challenges Samburu women are facing today. Jane told me that there were some difficulties in the village. Firstly, they lack two sources of income instead of one. Secondly, they still hope that they will marry a worthy man. Women who were beaten, raped, sold and humiliated by men regret that they did not find “worthy.” Habit is second nature, nothing less. Thirdly, the village residents began to have conflicts over leadership. They started quarreling among themselves.

Is it so bad? Is this notorious “women’s collective”, the kingdom of hazing (babovshchina?), after all not a myth invented by men?

Monkeys and dominance

We devalue the company of our own kind, whether at work or among friends. For example, I often hear from women: “I have always been friends with men,” and this sounded proud. When did the company of men become such a value? Why is it “cooler” to be among them than among us?

Chimpanzees, our closest relatives, also have difficult relationships between females. Monkeys live in small groups (about 50 individuals) called “communities.” Sometimes female chimpanzees move from one community to another, and there they are greeted by other females, indigenous inhabitants - almost like the stepmother greets Cinderella in the old fairy tales. It gets to the point where locals kill not only newcomers, but also their newborn babies. So often strangers have to ask males for protection. But among bonobos, known for their sexual liberation, exactly the opposite happens. Instead of conflict, females build very strong harmonious bonds and even dominate males in the pursuit of food. That is, where chimpanzees fight each other, bonobos will unite.

We are monkeys. And we are more chimpanzee than bonobo.

If we lived in the jungle, our aggression towards each other would be explained by the desire to leave as healthy and strong offspring as possible. In chimpanzees, a female's success lies primarily in access to quality food, while a male's success depends on whether he is popular with fertile females.

Hatred has begun. The males make babies for us, and the females take the bananas and give them to their babies. One joy is that we are no longer in the jungle.

Knights and food supply

As time goes by, men stop being so shaggy (well, the majority, at least), crawl out of caves and settle in castles. Others, less successful, occupy more modest housing. We still live in communities and, as before, we are forced to decide who is beneficial for us to stick with and whom it is better to avoid or completely eliminate.

For thousands (I'm not kidding) of years, all of humanity's most valuable resources were concentrated in the hands of men: men received education; property was owned by men; religion, politics and family patterns were built by men.

Accordingly, there was no point in making friends with women, but organizing a race for the right to be closer to the “food base” did. After all, if a man leaves for another woman, he will take all the benefits with him. In addition, in a traditional society, a woman, just like a chimpanzee, leaves her home and comes to a man’s house, where there are other women, often hostile. Hence there are so many stories and tales about an evil stepmother or mother-in-law. Previously, girls at weddings even sang special pitiful songs about how their mother-in-law would pull their hair and beat them.

The situation has changed only in the last hundred years, which, by the standards of history, is not even yesterday, but literally today at lunchtime. Women go to universities, write books, own land and businesses, make decisions that affect their bodies... The need for a strong partner has become much less, so what's the big deal?

"You're a girl"

When I was little, my mother told me that if I didn’t learn to tidy my room, I would never get married. And it was, I will tell you, a terrible threat. At the same time, my mother did not even imagine that a man would clean the house. Or even us together.

This is how “you’re a girl” is born from the flames of hell.

“How can you fight, you’re a girl!”, “Straighten up, you’re a girl!”, “Smile, you’re a girl!”... I remember and it hurts my teeth, what about you?

I wonder, if it weren’t for “I’m a girl,” I could do whatever I want? Walk with shaggy hair, fight, spit balls of chewed paper and hunch over? “We girls” are never good enough, no matter what we do. We borrow this idea from our mothers and grandmothers and carry it with us throughout our lives, like a perpetual hot potato.

“You’re a girl” has a twin sister - “look at Katya (Masha, Dasha, Marina).” Then there may be options: “Katya has a luxurious braid, not like you have three hairs,” “Katya has only one four.” And so on ad infinitum. We are constantly compared to each other not in our favor, so much so that even best friend causes irritation after these endless “look at...”.

And what’s most interesting is that I’ve never heard anything like that from mothers of boys in my life, except perhaps “Don’t cry, you’re a man.” Are boys compared to each other too? They say to them: “Misha, look at Petya, he already has a wow, and you have some pathetic bags”? Then we gain independence and begin to convince ourselves that the other woman is better than us, which means there is nothing to love her for.

“Girlfriends exist to take away their husbands”

My close friend shared this wisdom with me, and her grandmother shared with her.

But if you think about it, this is often what happens,” the friend laughs. - I know so many stories when my husband cheated with his girlfriend...

Yes, there really are a lot of such stories. In fact, everything can be explained by simple mathematics. U average woman There are always more girlfriends than friends, and her and her husband’s social circles are approximately the same. It is interesting that a wave of anger always falls on the mistress who “stole”, “destroyed the family” and “bewitched”. It always sounds as if the man was not taking part in the whole event at all. The husband in this scenario usually appears in an ambivalent role. On the one hand, a man is strength and power, on the other hand, he is such a little boy who cannot be held responsible for his actions.

We want to be friends, but we don't know how

My closest friends have always been women. I don’t believe in “women’s tantrums” or “women’s groups.” By the way, my best boss and wonderful friend was a woman. She was only a little older than me and had a huge heart tattoo on her chest that said “I regret nothing.”

On numerous forums on the Internet, on social networks and in comments, the question often comes up - how to tell a girl that you don’t like her, and then consolidate your success? This moment is really important, because the girl’s attitude towards the guy and her desire to continue acquaintance largely depend on a correctly chosen confession.

In addition, read tips on the correct declaration of love through social media.

What should you look like to get a girl to like you?

“You meet a person by his clothes” is an unshakable rule that you need to come to terms with and do everything possible to please your interlocutor. The style of clothing does not matter much, but neatness is very important. Maintain your hygiene to be more confident during communication. Modern girls like well-groomed guys who take care of their appearance - they shave regularly, trim their nails and use good deodorants. But you shouldn’t pour out the entire bottle of perfume on yourself in the desire to please you – one or two applications on the skin is enough.

An important factor at the moment of acquaintance and communication is a smile, which should be sincere. In this way, you show the girl that you are happy in her company and would be glad to continue communication. Remember that the fair sex is drawn to cheerful guys who can cheer you up and make you forget about the gray everyday life of this world.

During the conversation, keep your back straight and calm. Before each answer, mentally count to three and think through each word. You shouldn’t blurt out the first thing that comes to mind. Remember that excitement is a good sign that you are interested in a person.

Immediately think about what you want to say to your chosen one. Your confession doesn't have to be cumbersome. It is important that it “hook” the girl to the quick. You shouldn’t write a whole “play” filled with jokes and anecdotes. Simple expressions such as:

• “You are a wonderful girl, I love you”;
• "Hello. You should know that I really like you”;
• “I just want to say that I care about you, I love you.”

Words of recognition work best when you are alone with your chosen one, and the girl is in a good mood. If there is someone walking around, you will not be able to concentrate and sincerely communicate your feelings. Better decide in advance suitable place and invite a girl there. You can take her out for a walk right after school or college lectures.

Try to confess your love in person - do not do this over the phone, message or through social networks. This option is possible as a last resort, when the girl is far away or near her you are literally speechless. Believe me, girls appreciate brave guys who are able to talk about their feelings by looking into their eyes. The result of recognition will be much greater. In addition, never ask a friend to convey words of love for you - such actions will not end well.

During the confession process, be yourself, don’t come up with anything new and speak honestly. Try not to be intrusive, exclude vulgarities and incomprehensible phrases. It is not advisable to talk about love in hints. It’s better to talk directly about your feelings rather than leave the girl guessing.

Before confessing, look the girl in the eyes and don’t look down (this is one of the main mistakes). Your chosen one should feel your attention and desire to please. Keep in mind that for many women, the eyes are the most attractive part of the face. Take advantage of this.

Don't delay in confessing. Once eye contact is established, talk about your feelings and you will immediately feel better. There is no need to come up with abstruse phrases or imagine yourself as a Hollywood actor. Simply say, “I like you” or “Let’s try to develop our relationship, to be more than just friends.”

Remember that your confession does not oblige the girl to anything, because her feelings must be mutual. Do not rush your chosen one with an answer, let her think about everything that happened. Often confession has the effect of an exploding bomb, after which you need to step away and then analyze your feelings. Even if the sympathy is mutual, the girl must muster the courage to confess to the same guy. Don’t put pressure on your chosen one, let her make her own decision. At the same time, continue to develop relationships and ask for dates, and the answer will come by itself.

Before telling a girl that you like her, it is important to get to know her better, understand her interests and life position. Relationships will be stronger if the woman you love is also a friend. Think about what you like most about a person, what attracts you to him, why it is so pleasant to be around him. Treat the girl with respect, invite her with you when you are going somewhere with friends, and be around her more often during school or at work.

Pay attention to the attitude towards you. If a girl doesn’t try to please you and doesn’t show interest, you need to change your tactics or even abandon the idea of ​​starting a relationship. Think again whether you really need such a person. Guys often confuse sexual attraction with love. But keep in mind that a beautiful figure should not become the basis in love.

It is easiest to admit feelings when you have common interests or similar views on the world. That is why, after meeting, it is important to find common “points of contact” and develop them in the future. Find out what the girl's hobby is, what she is interested in in life, what she would like in the future, what kind of music or cinema she likes. It is necessary to obtain as much information as possible about a person in order to compare his vision of life with yours.

Common interests are the basis of the relationship between a guy and a girl. The more “points of contact” a couple has, the more interesting they are with each other, and the higher the chances of having a closer relationship. But don't despair if there aren't enough topics to discuss right now. Try to understand what your lady likes and delve into this topic. If a woman understands that your interests coincide, there are more chances for a future together.

When preparing for a confession, the guy goes through thousands of phrases, but cannot give preference to any one option. The fear of saying the wrong thing and being rejected is very strong, which prevents you from making the right decision. Below are some recommendations on how to confess your feelings in the easiest way.

If you cannot boast of eloquence, there is no need to invent anything - just admit your feelings. For example, say “You are a wonderful girl. I really like you". Be sure to back up your position. Tell us why you chose her. If you like a girl’s eyes or hairstyle, say so:

• “I like the way your hair is curly”;
• “Your eyes are deep and very kind. I’m drowning in them, but I don’t want to be saved.”

If a girl is pretty, she is pleased to hear compliments from the stronger sex. Of course, she sees your admiration from the outside, but it’s better to voice your thoughts. Say the following:

• “You are so sweet that I simply have to give you a wonderful souvenir for a future holiday”;
• “You are very sweet. When I see you, my heart beats faster, and my thoughts are confused in my head.”

To show sympathy, you can admit emotional intimacy. For example:

• "Be my soulmate";
• “Do you want to be my soulmate?”

By the way, such phrases are often used during the first meeting in order to attract the girl’s attention and make her think about her future gentleman.

Another way to confess your feelings is to tell the girl that she is better than others. There are many options here:

• “I like you more than all the girls around. You are special";
• “You are better, brighter, more fun and more beautiful than other girls. I like you".

If you have a sense of humor, you can use it to express your confession. For example, “There is such chemistry between us that I am ready to throw myself into the pool headlong.” At the same time, try to speak sincerely, do not memorize the words in advance. As a rule, at the right moment exactly those phrases come that will strike a chord the most.

In the era of “computer” communication, young people often build relationships via the Internet. At the same time, the same question arises - how to confess to a girl that you like her, and what phrases need to be written in order to hook her and make her think about her feelings.

Many people think that declaring their love through a social network is easier. This is wrong. Of course, you can write a banal phrase about how you love or dream of starting a relationship together. But whether it will give results is a big question. To achieve success, it is important to consider several points.

Write clear sentences and do not use hints. Many guys try to seem smart and use incomprehensible words when communicating. It is not right. The main key to success is ease of communication. Eliminate slang or specific words from your speech. But you shouldn’t go to the other extreme, when all requests are made with maximum politeness – using “You”.

Be literate. Having mistakes in simple words can push a girl away from you. It is unlikely that she will want to date a poorly educated ignoramus. Also, avoid using jargon or obscure abbreviations. But again, here you need to focus on the age and type of girl.

Don't overuse emoticons, but you shouldn't give them up either. At the beginning of communication, exclude the use of symbols of a wink or an embarrassed smile - it is better to say it in words. Over time, emoticons can be useful for creating a positive mood in the interlocutor. Do not unsubscribe with emoticons alone, at least more than once.

Write text that might interest a girl. The phrase “Hello. How are you?" immediately throw it in the trash. It is so hackneyed that the interlocutor will most likely not answer or write in the same stereotyped way - “Hello. The best". When communicating with a girl through social networks, it is important individual approach. Be sure to read the person’s profile, find out about his interests, and look at his photographs. You can write the following - “Hello. Your photos are excellent. You are so positive about them. My own mood has lifted. What else are you interested in? Where are you going?

Remember that the first message should not consist of two words. The larger the offer, the higher the likelihood that you will receive an answer. Show your interest in the girl, develop a relationship, because this will make it easier to admit your feelings in the future.

If you decide to confess your love, do it in an original way, for example, through a video recording. Record a video and send it to your girlfriend. It should be clear from your appearance that you tried and prepared for the event. The recording location should be nature - a park or river. During the confession process, you can recite a poem you wrote or sing a song.

In a relationship with a girl, sincerity and openness are important. This applies not only to communication, but also to confessing your feelings. Try to act without subtext, express your feelings in simple words, but do it original and not like everyone else. Look around. There are fewer and fewer miracles in our lives, and relationships between a man and a woman are increasingly becoming an everyday occurrence. Become a “spark” for the girl, give her positive emotions and don’t be shy to show your feelings.

I completely agree with everything said in the article. I had many girls, and I confessed my feelings to each of them personally. I believe that the main factor in this matter is self-confidence. I even liked to watch my passion’s reaction, how she blushed and was lost at the moment of recognition.

I know from experience that it’s easiest to confess your love when you know the girl well and can predict the reaction. That's why I always try to get closer, to get to know a person, to understand his interests. This makes it easier to explain your feelings. For example, my current girlfriend really loves movies. Actually, that’s where we met.

I have trouble with my fantasies in general. I never knew what to say to a girl at the most crucial moment. I said various nonsense that had nothing to do with my real feelings. As a result, it was impossible to start a relationship. Thanks to the author for the examples. Now I will use them in practice.

I don’t know why you guys are even worried about this. If I like a girl, I just go up and tell her about it. Without arrogance and vulgarity, of course, but as sincere as possible. Surprisingly, this approach has not yet failed me. By the way, the article contains the simplest versions of confessions, but they are the ones that work the most, and the phrase “Be my soulmate” almost always works.

I dated a girl at a distance for a long time, which forced me to communicate through social networks and SMS. One day I decided to confess my feelings, albeit remotely. A meeting was not planned in the near future, but I really wanted to start a closer relationship. I suffered a little and wrote a poem with a confession - Lena (that’s the name of my current girlfriend) liked it.

Regarding confessing your feelings through video - a super idea. I've been looking for something like this for a long time, but couldn't decide on it the best way. And here everything is brilliant and simple. On the one hand, there is a personal appeal, and on the other hand, there is no need to blush personally. I'll definitely try this method.

Personal confession of my feelings is generally a problem for me. When I try to say “I like you” or something like that, a lump comes to my throat and I become a useless “vegetable”. I prefer to say such words through social networks. This is where my real talent shows itself.

How complicated everything is with these girls, it’s a whole science... I haven’t been able to start a normal relationship with anyone for five years. He doesn’t seem to be a freak, but confessions just don’t work out. We need to overcome the psychological barrier and finally act. Thanks to the author for useful material, because we managed to learn a lot. Now all that remains is to test it in practice.