Hysteria after sleep in a child. The child wakes up with a tantrum: what should mom do? Hysteria associated with violent games the day before

Hysteria in a child after sleep can occur at any age. This phenomenon is quite common and is often associated with some special events that the child has experienced and remembered for the current day. That is why parents need to treat the child with understanding, and the problem - with patience.

Consider several options in which there is a tantrum in a child after sleep.

Tantrum after daytime sleep in a child under 1 year old

Possible reasons: probably, the baby was simply woken up at the wrong time, which affected his mood. It may also happen that some objects, sounds or phenomena on the street simply frightened the child, so his sleep was interrupted, and awakening is associated with unpleasant emotions.

How to be? If a child under the age of one has a tantrum after sleeping while walking, we advise you to take the baby in your arms and try to rock him. A calm mother's voice, a toy served on time or a bottle of juice can distract from unpleasant emotions.

If such tantrums occur in children up to a year after sleeping at home, it makes sense to think about improving the soundproofing of the walls. Perhaps the sounds of the street or the actions of other inhabitants of the apartment wake up the baby, without allowing him to fully enjoy the daytime sleep. In this case, it is necessary not only to calm the child, but also to take care of preventive measures for such spontaneous awakening in the future.

Tantrum after sleeping at night in a one-year-old child

If the baby wakes up at night with a tantrum, but there are no unnecessary noises and irritating factors, hunger and pain can be called probable causes of restless behavior. In the first case, it is enough to organize feeding, in the second - to show the baby to the pediatrician.

Sleep tantrum in older child

The needs of infants most often come down to the need to sleep and eat, but children 2-4 years old are already more conscious of their desires and needs. It is at this age that tantrums after sleep, oddly enough, are considered a more regular occurrence. This is due to the more active functioning of the brain, which can send signals to the baby in the form of both pleasant dreams and nightmares.

If a tantrum in a child after sleep happens all the time, then its causes are, most likely, as follows.

Banal lack of sleep

Also, a tantrum can occur in a child who did not want to go to bed, but eventually fell asleep. Often, waking up after an unwanted dream can be met with violent tantrums.

Nightmares that torment the baby

In order for the child's sleep to be calm, we recommend giving the baby a glass of warm milk with honey at night. Falling asleep with a parent or simply giving 20-30 minutes to the child from mom or dad before bedtime can also help with the problem. You can just lie down next to the baby, talk to him, play quiet games or read a book.

Hysteria associated with violent games the day before

Any emotions, both positive and negative, can affect the child in a certain way during sleep. Try to get your baby to stop too much activity 2-3 hours before bedtime. It is undesirable to receive guests during this period, play active games and have too much fun.

Stressful situation

So, many mothers notice that regular tantrums in babies occur after the start of attending kindergarten. Still, emotions, communication, unusual environment cannot but affect the psycho-emotional state of the baby. This is where the tantrums come from. Such manifestations will disappear very soon, as soon as the baby gets used to the new environment and the team. Until then, parents need active support for the child, frequent conversations and the opportunity to pay increased attention.

A child's tantrum is not an easy test for any mother. And when a child suddenly wakes up screaming after several hours of sleep and there is nothing to calm him down, then confusion and despair unsettle him. After all, it is very difficult to plan your actions in advance. Moreover, children can go screaming after daytime sleep and waking up in the middle of the night. How to respond correctly so as not to harm the child and where to look for the cause of children's tantrums, we will consider in the next article.

Possible causes of children's tantrums after waking up

Every mother, even with the most steely nerves, is in confusion when her baby suddenly starts screaming loudly, falling to the floor and escaping from her arms. Especially if the little one is still too small and is not able to explain the reason for his restless awakening. Parents try their best to calm the child, but do not know how to help him ...

Here it is important to pull yourself together and, above all, find out the reason for this behavior of a son or daughter. After all, it is quite possible that the child is sick and an immediate diagnosis is required in order to start treatment as soon as possible. But there are other various stimuli to which children react in a similar way.

Nightmares. Everyone has bad dreams sometimes. And children are no exception. Especially if some unpleasant incident happened to them during the day. For example, someone else's child took away kindergarten favorite toy or the kid ran across the playground and hit something painfully.
Bad atmosphere in the house. If everything is fine and calm in the family, then most likely the child will develop normally and behave obediently, without whims and tantrums. And if someone in the family constantly sorts things out, raising their voice, at each other or at the child, then with a high probability the son or daughter will also be nervous. And during sleep, they will re-experience those negative emotions that they had to feel during the day.
Physiological reasons. They are associated in most cases with periodic pain or an unhealthy state of the child. For example, a baby’s gums hurt a lot during teething, or because of a cold, his throat hurts and his nose is stuffy, which also makes it very difficult to sleep. In such conditions, the baby suddenly wakes up screaming.
The room is too hot and the baby wakes up from the fact that it is difficult for him to breathe. He feels uncomfortable and therefore naughty. Since the metabolic processes of the skin in children occur more intensely, babies very sensitively feel the rise in temperature and sweat faster than adults.

What should parents do?

According to statistics, every child has tantrums from time to time. And parents should not have special reasons for concern, only if such cases do not become regular. When a child wakes up screaming, the most important thing for parents in this situation is to remain calm and try to calm their baby. If the child is still very young, try offering him one of the options:

give a drink
to take in your arms,
bring his favorite treat or toy.

Here's what you shouldn't do:

scream at the child
slap him on the cheeks
leave one.

If the child refuses everything and literally does not hear you, then you should take a closer look at him. You need to carefully observe his behavior and appearance. For example, if he tightens his legs, then he may have a stomach ache, and if he has a fever and swollen red gums, then he is probably cutting a tooth. When a tantrum is observed in a child over three years old, it makes sense to ask in more detail about the reasons for such behavior.

At any age, there are symptoms that accompany a tantrum, in which you should immediately consult a doctor.

Violent hysteria that does not stop for half an hour or more.
A child with a strong cry begins convulsions and fever.
Fear does not stop in the daytime.
Tantrums have become regular and you are not able to independently determine the cause and cope with it.

How to deal with a child's fears?

We all have fears of some sort as children. They are associated with various reasons. For example, the baby is terribly afraid of the dark or cannot be left alone in a confined space. There are times when a child is “intimidated” by someone from their peers or older children. And he begins to be afraid of losing his mother or thinks that monsters live in closets and dark corners. To find out the specific danger that the baby is afraid of, you need to calmly talk with him and dispel all his fears. If you can’t do this on your own, then you should seek help from a specialist and conduct anti-stress therapy. It includes activities aimed at psychological support and emotional unloading of the child.

Do not deny and laugh at the fears of the child, even if they seem childish and stupid to you. It is better to ask what exactly the child is afraid of, and not brush him off with the phrase: “You are already big enough to be afraid of the dark!”.
During the day, conduct activities aimed at relieving stress and anxiety in the child. Finger painting, modeling and various games with water can distract the little man from any experience and relieve emotional stress.
Support the child with your story about your own overcoming fears in childhood. So he will understand that everything is surmountable, and he was not left alone with his phobias.

Normalizing a child's sleep

In fact, tantrums in children are not such a rare occurrence. They are more associated with a transitional age, as a rule, these are intervals from 1 year to 2 years, then at 3 years and at 6-7 years. But if such restless behavior is observed only during awakening, then parents should attend to activities that favorably affect their child's sound and healthy sleep.

How to normalize baby's sleep?

Enter a strict sleep and rest regimen. Every day, follow a specific schedule for waking and waking the child. For example, if the baby wakes up every morning at 8.00, and in the evening he goes to bed at 22.00, then you should not deviate from the usual daily routine. This will make it easier for him to fall asleep and wake up at the same time. In addition, the daily routine is very useful for developing immunity in childhood.
Mandatory walks before bed. At least 2-3 hours before bedtime with the child, you need to go outside to breathe fresh air. It is even better if he runs and jumps to his heart's content, then he will be physically tired, and it will be better to sleep at night until the morning. Thus, he simply does not have enough strength for night tantrums.
In the evening, just before bedtime, exclude watching cartoons or TV shows, it is better to play calm, quiet games with the child. nervous system will not be overloaded and he will get ready for sleep faster.
Relaxing bath at night. To prepare it, you need to purchase one or more “soothing” components at the pharmacy: motherwort, calendula, mint, lemon balm or coniferous extract.
Ventilate the room before the child goes to bed at least 1 hour in advance.
Give your baby a soothing herbal tea. You can easily buy it at any pharmacy. Many of the herbal teas are for toddlers.

Over time, when the child grows up, the tantrums and restless behavior that tormented the baby during sleep will pass. This usually happens by 4-5 years of age. But if the problem is of a protracted nature and, moreover, the child is too emotional during the daytime, then you should seriously think about the health of the child. After all, this behavior is a sign of some neurological diseases. For example, increased intracranial pressure or hyperactivity, which, by virtue of being recognized only by experienced professionals.

Help, who faced similar. Until about 1.8, the child woke up like this: fiddled in the crib, then either started playing with the bear, or got up and started telling something. After a daytime sleep, she generally liked to raise him, since his mood was usually just excellent.
And after 1.8, we gradually began to "post-sleep drama." And on the rise. So he wakes up and starts crying. Often at the beginning of crying, he, how to explain it, strains. Well, that is, as if he didn’t really want to cry now, but he had to. That is, everything starts with a strained "henna-henna", gradually accelerates and often ends with such a high-quality hysteria. However, he often gets angry. For example, he gets up in the crib, roars, I come up, try to pick him up, he can start to push him away and fall back into bed. But if you leave it there, he gets even more angry - he shouts something, waves his arms at me. Sometimes it goes on the handles, but on the hands it also accelerates into a sob, starts to turn around (like put it on the floor, mother), I put it on the floor - it yells even more. Questions (such as "Where does it hurt?", "Do you want to drink?", "Do you want to handle?") He ignores or gets angry. This can last from several minutes to a couple of visits of 5-10 minutes each.
I went to the neurologist a month ago and he said everything is fine. He didn't really explain anything about post-sleep tantrums. Kind of a norm.
What has been tried:
1. All types of dances with tambourines: slander, try to chat, make laugh, get drunk, play, distract, lie down together on the bed, switch attention to other people (if someone is visiting at that time). Rarely works.

2. My husband doesn’t read modern upbringing books, so if he picks up, he gets out of bed, tries to distract, if he doesn’t go out, he takes him to the room, puts him on our sofa (the child can get off it calmly by himself) and offers a little more lie down, and when he wants to come to our kitchen. And leaves. There the scenario is standard: short sobs for 3-5 minutes, then the child looks out of the room, I suggest going to wash and eat, agrees. We go to wash, eat (sometimes there is a second act in between, but rarely). This method is the most effective in terms of the duration of tantrums, but damn it, it also tramples on all the theories that are now fashionable about affection, tears of futility, etc. So my not understand whether it is right or not.

3. Once a friend came to me and witnessed our awakening. She said that her daughter used to wake up in the same way during the day as a child. The friend eventually came to the decision to just leave her in bed for a while until she calmed down, because no methods worked either. Now her daughter, by the way, is 16 years old - a calm, adequate creative girl. In short, I also tried this option-not-for-ideal-moms. Bottom line: standard: 5-15 minutes of sobbing, then gets up in bed with a very displeased look. I ask if he wants to handle it, he says "yes", I take it out.

4. Here, in general, it’s a nightmare and it’s better not to read Gippenreiter and everyone else for the ideal, persistent, not losing his temper and always acting in agreement with the child. But in general, at a moment of mental weakness and special tinkering with the boy, she lightly slapped the boy a couple of times. By the way, the effect was: the boy thoughtfully touched his ass. While I was thinking, I managed to tell him that he probably wants to get up and on his hands, he agreed, got it, But after 5 minutes the failed dose of hysteria caught up with us - I don’t remember what the reason was, but we got the standard 10 minutes of sobs.

In short, I do not understand how to behave. He doesn't like it and everything makes him angry. I sometimes have the feeling that he has some kind of charge for a 5-10-minute tantrum, which must be cried out anyway. Feels like nothing hurts. Usually when something hurts, he behaves and cries differently.
Occasionally it is possible to stop everything, if it is immediately ready for hands and does not mind sitting on them.
Well, or it happens (once a month, probably) that he just wakes up calmly.
In the morning, too, begins to sob immediately, but calms down as soon as you get out of bed.
Who faced similar, share what helps you and how to behave better?
Child 2.3.

A few tips for coping with temper tantrums in a child with autism spectrum disorder

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“What can I do to calm my 6-year-old high-functioning autistic son when he has a tantrum? As a rule, during a tantrum, he can harm himself or break / ruin something in the house. He is in first grade and his teacher is already expressing concern about his behavior."

To understand how you can calm the child, you need to know what upset him, if possible, identify situations in which the child begins to fall into hysterics, or even turns off.

1. Make sure the child knows what is expected of him. Don't try to influence him when he's already upset.
2. Try to switch him to another activity he enjoys.
3. If the tantrum does not stop, tell him briefly and calmly "STOP."
4. If your request was ignored, the child should be left alone for a while. Allocate a special room for this purpose, it can be called a "safe place". In this room you can put a soft chair-ottoman in which you can sit. But from there it is worth removing toys and other distracting things. If the child rests, you will have to make an effort.
5. Tell him that before leaving this room, he must calm down for 5 minutes.

The above recommendations are an easy way to deal with unwanted behavior. The key to success is consistent behavior. The child should always know the consequences of his actions. If he goes to school or other activities, everyone who works with him must act according to a common strategy.

Surprisingly, many children with autism spectrum disorders are quite able to take time out on their own to calm down alone. We only need to teach them to monitor their condition, and for this we need to let them know that they CAN calm themselves.

Unfortunately, there are no easy quick ways reduce or prevent severe behavior problems (self-harm, aggression, severe tantrums, disruptive behavior). However, there are a few tricks that you can use without much effort.

1. One of possible causes unwanted behavior may be difficulty understanding speech. Autistic children very often have difficulties with auditory perception. They often do not understand what they are told (they hear but do not understand the meaning of what they hear). Misunderstanding can cause frustration and confusion, which in turn can lead to unwanted behavior. In this case, visual support techniques will help you. If you use pictures and cards, the child will more easily understand what awaits him.

2. Behavioral problems can also be caused by underdevelopment (absence) of expressive speech. Indeed, most researchers acknowledge that it is the lack of the ability to express oneself through speech that is the cause of most tantrums in autistic children. In such cases, PECS (Picture Exchange Communication System) or mixed method Simultaneous Communication (speech accompanied by sign language) can be used.

3. Food allergies can often be the cause of undesirable behavior. Reddened ears, cheeks, dark circles under the eyes can be manifestations of food allergies. The most common allergens are dairy and wheat flour products, as well as preservatives and dyes. Often food allergies are accompanied by headaches, nervousness, nausea, abdominal pain, as a result of which the child becomes less tolerant of his environment and often breaks down. Due to the fact that often the child cannot say what worries him, neither parents nor teachers understand the reasons for the child's ailment, and in general they cannot always recognize this ailment. If food allergies are suspected, the child should be tested accordingly. If an allergy to a particular product is confirmed, it should be absolutely excluded from the child's diet.

4. If the child's behavior at school differs from his behavior at home for the worse, the reason may be that the school lacks a structured environment. However, tantrums can be caused by a deterioration in general well-being due to external influences. For example, because of the smell of household chemicals used in cleaning the premises, as well as because of the fluorescent lamps in school rooms. Although the smell may dissipate by the next day, particles of cleaning products remain on the surfaces of tables and floors, first on the hands of the students, and then into the mouth. The ingestion of these substances in the body can adversely affect the condition of sensitive children. Often teachers wipe their desks and floors with clean water before each class. school day, and many of them report that this reduces the number of instances of undesirable student behavior. Fluorescent lights, which are typically used to illuminate classrooms, can also affect children's behavior. Researchers at UCLA University have shown that exposure to a room with fluorescent lights increases the incidence of stereotyped behavior and self-stimulation compared to the same period of time spent in a room with conventional incandescent lights for autistic children. To test this, teachers may decide not to use fluorescent lights for a few days and replace them with incandescent lights, or simply use natural light and then compare student behavior over the study period.

5. In many cases, problem behavior (tantrum) is a reaction to a request or demand made to the child. Perhaps, once the child learned that by such behavior, one can avoid fulfilling the request / demand. Functional analysis of behavior (finding out what precedes the behavior, finding out the consequences and context of the behavior) can help reveal the relationship between the behavior and the function it performs. If the function is to resist the fulfillment of the request/requirement, then, without exception, everyone who works or is simply with the child must achieve the fulfillment of the requirements for the child. Otherwise, the tantrums will be repeated.

6. It is very important to consider the level of "heat" of the child's tantrum before starting to build work aimed at eliminating or preventing such behavior. Sometimes tantrums start because the child is overexcited. This can happen if the child is overstimulated, or simply after prolonged exposure to a rich sensory environment. In such cases, it is necessary to eliminate the cause of overexcitation of the child. The most popular techniques are intense exercise (exercise on a stationary bike), vestibular stimulation (slow rocking), or deep hugs (Temple Grandin technique - "holding" the child in a strong hug). Other reasons for a nervous breakdown may be the lack of involvement of the child in activities, lack of interest in what is happening. A bored child may start screaming, spoiling objects around him - it's so entertaining and so exciting! In this case, it is necessary to constantly feed the child's interest in what is happening around or in purposeful activities.

7. Many children take safe supplements such as vitamin B6 or Dimethylglycine (DMG). Almost half of the children taking them show improvements in behavior and in the general condition of the body. However, doctors sometimes prescribe strong medications, such as Ritalin, to correct unwanted behavior. A study by the Autism Research Institute in San Diego found that 45% of the 2,788 parents surveyed reported a deterioration in their child's behavior, 20% of parents reported an improvement, and 27% saw no change at all.

8. Sometimes it happens that tantrums happen only at school, but they don’t happen at home, or vice versa. Perhaps this happens because the parents have already developed a strategy to prevent or stop this behavior, and the teacher is not aware of it. In this case, it is very important that parents and teachers are in constant contact to develop a unified approach in dealing with unwanted behavior.

Selected comments on the site:

Often I tell my eight-year-old son simply, "Stop." And I keep repeating this word until he stops. This works better than trying to inform him of the consequences of such behavior. August 16, 2012 at 6:53 AM

Over the last year we have been successfully using some of these techniques with my seven year old son, but it seems to me that the big tantrums are coming back. He can suddenly become angry, start throwing things, screaming. It's very exhausting for him and for me. Unfortunately, the previously tested methods of calming have ceased to work. It seems to me that the reason for this may be new teacher and new demands placed on the son. When the son comes home from school, the tantrums stop. Probably, raising an "Asperger's" one has to constantly invent more and more new ways. Thanks for giving me food for thought. August 16, 2012 at 8:42 AM

I have a student in 8th grade who constantly folds or simply rips off the corners of her notebook, even though she has enough regular sheets of paper to do it. We've tried giving her balls that she can hold in her hands, but that doesn't work. Are there any other ways to help in this situation? August 16, 2012 at 12:11 PM

I don't think just telling him to "calm down" can help. Autistic children don't remember what it means to be calm. We use visualization - on a large sheet of paper we attach photographs of our son in a balanced state, which help him understand what it means to “be calm” and, in fact, calm down. August 16, 2012 at 12:21 PM

Yes, I know how hard it can be sometimes. Try to distract him! I let my five-year-old son touch fabrics of different textures or just look at different colors. This usually calmed him down. Or just take him out of the room where he gets hysterical or passes out. Changing sensory experiences works best! August 16, 2012 at 12:22 PM
My son and I just walk, at school he walks around the school building, at home we just wind circles around the house until he calms down ... This, however, only worked with my older "aspie" ... August 17, 2012 at 6 :36AM
My grandson and nephew are diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. My husband is a retired director elementary school, suggests using a bean chair. It is very calming as it envelops the child and thus has a relaxing effect.August 18, 2012 at 8:25 AM

Children's tantrums can complicate the life of any, even very patient adults. Yesterday the baby was a “darling”, and today it has been replaced - he screams for any reason, squeals, falls to the floor, beats his head against the walls and carpet, and no exhortations help. Such unpleasant scenes are almost never one-time protests. Often, tantrums in a child are repeated systematically, sometimes several times a day.

This cannot but disturb and puzzle parents who are wondering what they did wrong, is everything okay with the baby and how to stop these antics. Authoritative famous pediatrician Yevgeny Komarovsky tells moms and dads how to respond to children's tantrums.

About the problem

Children's tantrums are a ubiquitous phenomenon. And even if the parents of the little one say that they have the calmest baby in the world, this does not mean that he never makes scenes out of the blue. Until recently, it was somehow embarrassing to admit to tantrums in one’s own child, the parents were embarrassed, suddenly others would think that they were raising the little one poorly, and sometimes they were completely afraid that their beloved child would be considered mentally “not like that”. So they fought, as best they could, in the family circle.

IN last years they began to talk about the problem with specialists, child psychologists, psychiatrists, neurologists and pediatricians. And an insight came: there are much more hysterical children than it might seem at first glance. According to statistics available to child psychologists in one of the major Moscow clinics, 80% of children under the age of 6 have tantrums periodically, and 55% of such children have tantrums on a regular basis. On average, children can fall into such attacks from 1 time per week to 3-5 times a day.

A child's tantrum has certain basic symptoms. As a rule, an attack is preceded by some identical events and situations.

During a tantrum, a child can scream heart-rendingly, tremble, choke, and there will not be so many tears. There may be shortness of breath, an increased heart rate, and many children try to hurt themselves by scratching their faces, biting their hands, hitting walls or the floor. Attacks in children are quite long, after which they cannot calm down for a long time, sobbing.

In certain age periods, tantrums acquire stronger manifestations; at such “critical” stages of growing up, emotional outbursts change their color. They may suddenly appear, or they may just as suddenly disappear. But tantrums should never be ignored, just as a child should not be allowed to manipulate adult family members with the help of screaming and stamping their feet.

The opinion of Dr. Komarovsky

First of all, Evgeny Komarovsky believes, parents should remember that a child in a state of hysteria necessarily needs a spectator. Kids never make scandals in front of a TV or a washing machine, they choose a living person, and from family members the one who is most sensitive to his behavior is suitable for the role of a spectator.

If dad starts to worry and get nervous, then it will be he who will be chosen by the child for a spectacular tantrum. And if the mother ignores the behavior of the child, then throwing a tantrum in front of her is simply not interesting.

How to wean a child from tantrums will tell Dr. Komarovskaya in the next video.

This opinion somewhat contradicts the generally accepted opinion of child psychologists, who argue that a child in a state of hysteria does not control himself at all. Komarovsky is sure that the baby is perfectly aware of the situation and the balance of power, and everything that he does at this moment does it quite arbitrarily.

Therefore, the main advice from Komarovsky is in no way to show that the children's "concert" touches the parents in any way. No matter how strong the tears, screams and stamping of feet were.

If a child ever achieves his goal with the help of a tantrum, he will use this method all the time. Komarovsky warns parents to appease the baby during a tantrum.

To give in means to become a victim of manipulation, which will, in one way or another, constantly improving, continue for the rest of your life.

Preferably calm tactics of behavior and rejection of tantrums were followed by all family members, so that mom's "no" never turns into dad's "yes" or grandma's "maybe". Then the child will quickly understand that hysteria is not a method at all, and will stop testing adults' nerves for strength.

If the grandmother begins to show softness, to feel sorry for the child offended by the parental refusal, then she runs the risk of becoming the only spectator of children's tantrums. The problem, says Komarovsky, is the lack of physical security with such grandmothers. After all, usually a grandson or granddaughter gradually ceases to obey them and can get into an unpleasant situation in which they can be injured on a walk, burn yourself with boiling water in the kitchen, put something into the socket, etc., because the baby will not react to the calls of the grandmother.

What to do?

If a child is 1-2 years old, he is quite quickly able to form correct behavior at the reflex level. Komarovsky advises to put the baby in the arena, where he will have a safe space. As soon as the tantrum began, leave the room, but let the child know that he is being heard. As soon as the little one is silent, you can go into his room. If the cry is repeated - go out again.

According to Yevgeny Olegovich, two days are enough for a child of one and a half to two years to develop a stable reflex - “mom is nearby if I don’t yell.”

For such a “training”, parents will need truly iron nerves, the doctor emphasizes. However, their efforts will certainly be rewarded by the fact that in a short time an adequate, calm and obedient child will grow up in their family. And one more important point- The sooner parents put this knowledge into practice, the better for everyone. If the child has already exceeded 3 years, this method alone is indispensable. More painstaking work on the bugs will be required. First of all, over parental mistakes in raising their own child.

The child does not obey and is hysterical

Absolutely any children can be naughty, says Komarovsky. Much depends on the character, temperament, upbringing, norms of behavior that are accepted in the family, on the relationship between members of this family.

Do not forget about the "transitional" age - 3 years, 6-7 years, adolescence.

3 years

At the age of about three years, the child understands and realizes himself in this big world, and, of course, he wants to try this world for strength. In addition, children at this age are not all and far from always able to express in words their feelings, emotions and experiences on any occasion. So they show them in the form of hysterics.

Quite often at this age stage, night tantrums begin. They are spontaneous in nature, the child simply wakes up at night and immediately practices a piercing cry, arches, sometimes tries to break away from adults and try to run away. Usually night tantrums do not last so long, and the child "outgrows" them, they stop as suddenly as they began.

6-7 years old

At 6-7 years old, a new stage of growing up occurs. The kid is already ripe in order to go to school, and they begin to demand more from him than before. He is very afraid of not meeting these requirements, he is afraid of “failing”, stress accumulates and sometimes spills out again in the form of hysteria.

Yevgeny Komarovsky emphasizes that most often parents turn to doctors with this problem when the child is already 4-5 years old, when tantrums occur “out of habit”.

If, at an earlier age, parents failed to stop such behavior and unwittingly became participants in a tough performance that the baby plays in front of them every day, trying to achieve something of his own.

Parents are usually frightened by some of the external manifestations of hysteria, such as the child's fainting state, convulsions, "hysterical bridge" (arching the back), deep sobs and shortness of breath. Affective-respiratory disorders, this is how Evgeny Olegovich calls this phenomenon, are characteristic mainly of young children - up to 3 years. With strong crying, the child exhales almost the entire volume of air from the lungs, and this leads to blanching, holding the breath.

Such attacks are characteristic of capricious, excitable children, says Komarovsky. Many children use other methods of venting anger, disappointment or resentment - they sublimate emotion into movement - they fall, knock with their feet and hands, beat their heads against objects, walls, floors.

With a prolonged and severe hysterical affective-respiratory attack, involuntary convulsions may begin if the child's consciousness begins to suffer. Sometimes in this state, the baby can describe himself, even if he has been going to the pot for a long time, and there are no incidents. Usually, after convulsions (tonic - with muscle tension or clonic - with relaxation, "softening"), breathing is restored, the skin ceases to be "cyanotic", the baby begins to calm down.

With such manifestations of hysteria, it is still better to consult a pediatric neurologist, since the same symptoms are characteristic of some nervous disorders.

Teach your child to express emotions in words. Do not get angry or annoyed at all, like anyone else normal person your child can't. You just need to teach him how to express his anger or irritation correctly.
A child prone to hysterical attacks should not be overly patronized, groomed and cherished, it is best to send him to kindergarten as soon as possible. There, says Komarovsky, seizures usually do not occur at all due to the lack of permanent and impressionable spectators of tantrums - mom and dad.
Hysterical attacks can be learned to anticipate and control. To do this, parents need to carefully observe when a tantrum usually begins. The child may be sleepy, hungry, or he does not tolerate when they begin to rush him. Try to avoid potential "conflict" situations.
At the first sign of a tantrum starting, you should try to distract the child. Usually, says Komarovsky, this “works” quite successfully with children under three years old. With older guys it will be more difficult.
If your child tends to hold his breath during a tantrum, there is nothing particularly wrong with that. Komarovsky says that in order to improve breathing, you just need to blow in the face of the baby, and he will definitely take a breath reflexively.
No matter how difficult it is for parents to deal with the tantrums of the child, Komarovsky strongly recommends that you go through with this. If you let the kid beat you with a tantrum, then it will be even more difficult. After all, a hysterical and completely unbearable teenager of 15-16 years old will one day grow out of a hysterical three-year-old. It will ruin the life of not only parents. He makes it very difficult for himself.

Doctor Komarovsky