How to make a guy with me. How to make a man agree with me? Ritual for meeting a guy
I live with a man for 2 years. I love him, he says he loves me too. His actions back up his words. But we have quarrels, and there are many of them, every week or two we quarrel. This is always a trifling reason: she looked wrong, dropped an orange, forgot to buy sweets. These are all everyday situations, they also happen to him, I don’t consider this a reason for a quarrel, I can just correct him and say that I would like him to do it differently next time. I think that his behavior is largely due to the fact that he grew up in a family where there are only scandals, he did not see a normal family. He only has a mother, and they cannot spend 30 minutes with her without a scandal, and these are quarrels. When they swear, there is so much hatred, she can insult him, call him names or expel him. I have an ordinary family, I'm not used to scandals, my parents are trusting, warm and harmonious relationship. During these 2 years I have changed a lot in myself in order to become better for my beloved, but this is always not enough. I'm confused. I try to explain to my beloved that if a question arises, you just need to talk and solve it, do not shout right away, do not get angry. But we don't get anything. In the last quarrel, he said that I did not understand what he needed, and that our life was a continuous quarrel, and he wanted peace, that he did not know at all how he met me (he said all this in anger). I don't know what to do with these words of his. Am I forcing myself on him? Does he want to be without me? How to improve the world? How can I behave so that he feels happy next to me?
Katerina, Kyiv, 27 years old / 07.12.12
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Alyona
Katerina, you need to think more about how to behave so that you yourself feel happy next to your partner. And, alas, most likely, your current man is absolutely not the person with whom you can relax and enjoy coexistence. Your young man is clearly not in the mood to break into a cake for the sake of your well-being. Moreover, it does not seem at all that he cares at all how comfortable you are with him to live with. His experiences relate only to his personal comfort, it is he who tries to keep it at any cost. Why do you need such a partner? Do you want to spend your whole life trying to meet his exaggerated requirements? Live in fear of disapproval and a new scandal if you don't please? Of course, you can make him happy for a while. But who will make you happy? Katerina, you are alone at home, and even if your roommate is the only guy who pecked at you (but I still hope that everything is not so sad), you should not devote your life to the noble, but completely ungrateful business of making your roommate happy. Think about what you yourself want and what you do not have now because of constant quarrels, claims and insults. Honestly, if I were you, I would pack my things after such a revelation from the guy (that he does not understand at all how he managed to contact you).
Sergey
Katerina, I personally think that a person who loves conflicts is very difficult to communicate with. And with age, as far as I know, this feature will only increase. And this means that no one in your couple (or, if this happens, in your family) will be immune from outbreaks of aggression. For adults, this is still tolerable, well, at least for a while and "for an amateur." But for children, such behavior will be very inopportune. After all, you can’t explain to a child that dad just has such an accentuation of character, but in fact he loves you. Swearing, insults are definitely moral suppression and humiliation, and they will have the most adverse effect on children. In addition, romance in your relationship is not eternal. And as soon as it passes, the scandals will intensify. And it’s hard for me to imagine how you can really love a person and at the same time make scandals with him with insults and humiliations. Here, in my opinion, there is more of your desire to present the bad as good, to find at least some explanation and justification. Why do you need it is a separate question. Personally, I believe that such outbreaks should never be forgiven and let everything go on the brakes. Insulted, shouted - went out. Tell him: "If you change your mind, you will return with an apology and you will control yourself in the future. But if you allow yourself to do this again, I will leave for good." Only this way, and nothing else. Otherwise, blame only yourself. And if beatings begin in the future, it will be your personal choice and your fault.
We've been dating a guy for 4 years now. At the beginning of our relationship, he deceived me by hiding his common-law wife and two children. Upon learning of this, I immediately decided to leave, but he did not let me go. We met, talked with him about a joint future, but when I asked him specifically two weeks ago, he said that he had not promised anything, that he already had children and offered to leave. Currently, he lives with his common-law wife, continuing to raise her for the sake of the children who were born. In the end, we agreed to wait another year. I don’t know how to influence the situation in such a way that it is finally resolved, and the guy, in the end, decided who he should be with. If you can, tell me, please, how can I do it? Thank you.
Answer
Greetings, Maria!
Questions like yours always make me very sad. As a man, I can find no excuse for your lover's blatant deceit and duplicity. It is quite obvious to me that you love this person if, after his lies and double life, you are still ready to forgive him everything and wait. Girls like you deserve happiness in the first place! But, first of all, you should figure out what your happiness is! Are you ready to overcome everything to be close to your loved one? Or is your resentment against him strong enough to finally break with him and start a new life?
If you decide that your personal pride is more important than feelings, I would recommend that you do it for yourself. This is an absolutely safe and painless rite. You will not even notice its influence until you realize that the person whom you loved with all your heart yesterday has become indifferent to you. It is then that you can let him go and not remember more about these years. If you want to let go of the past and enter a bright future with your head held high, a lapel is exactly what you need! If your love is really as strong as it seems to me, I can offer you a few more options.
As I understand it, the main problem, in your opinion, is children, to whom a man is attached much more strongly than to his common-law wife. You may think that children are a serious obstacle to your personal happiness. I assure you that a man's love for a woman and his affection for children are feelings of a completely different order. In no case should you put a man in front of a choice between you and his children. In this case, the choice will never be made in your favor. However, you have every chance to get what you want! To do this, you need to be patient and resort to magical help.
So what are your options? There are only two of them! It all depends on whether your lover has real feelings for you or not. In order to determine this, I just need to look at your joint photo. A person can deceive a lie detector, but he will never be able to deceive the energy scanner of a professional magician. If a man loves you, it will be enough to slightly push him to the right decision. For these purposes, a lapel rite from a common-law wife is perfect and, as a result of which you will, for example, dream of him. After the magic begins to act, the man will decide to break up and return to you as soon as possible. But do not think that, at the same time, he will leave the children. For a man, children are sacred!
If a man does not have love for you, the only thing I can offer you is! Only this ritual will give you the guaranteed result you want to achieve!
Men meet me everywhere and always. Even if, after catching an interested look, I turn my face into a brick, I know that a man will jump up to me with his “hello” as soon as I give the signal.
I don't have and never had a problem getting to know a man. At airports, in restaurants, in fitness clubs, on the street, men climb up to me.
I thought about women who want men to get acquainted with them, but something does not work out.
Perhaps I'll give you a couple of tips.
In order for men to follow you like rats follow Niels, you must look not only sexually attractive, but also, to some extent, depraved.
To do this, it is not necessary to wear microscopic shorts or demonstrate the absence of underwear under the blouse. There must be some sexual appeal in you: in your walk, in your gestures, and most importantly, in your eyes.
Do not dare to look away when the man you like is looking at you.
The ability to take a look is very sexy. This indicates that you are a tigress, not a cow.
It doesn't matter how old you are or how long your legs are. Let it be 50. Let it be short.
Photo: scoopnest.com
Recently I watched the series The Fall with Gillian Anderson: the figure is nothing, the face is wrinkled, but all this old, in general, woman is sex, because her whole appearance speaks of her readiness for it.
Photo: scoopnest.com
It's for sex. To the penis in the vagina. Not to a joint household. Not for dirty men's briefs in a laundry basket. And to sex, which, by the way, you do not have to do at all.
Remember, cows: sexual appeal in form and sexual intercourse are things, if they intersect, then only tangentially.
If you need men to get to know you, demonstrate, first of all, a sexual appeal, and not good looks, good character, reliability and other “nishtyaks”, which, if they are relevant, will be later.
Don't be afraid to appear naughty in the early days of a relationship. Then, if necessary, you clean up this image. Be afraid to appear dull, notorious and sexually boring. They don't even get married.
They marry those who, at the time of their acquaintance, sexually turned their asses, and then put on masks of piety in time.
Girls, do people often meet you on the street? Why do you think? Guys, what kind of women do you tend to approach with your “hello”?
There are things that cannot be conceded, and men dodge and demand their own. How to make a man agree with me?
Name: Svetlana
In the public domain there are many tips on how to manage a man. How to make a man fulfill, and even better, guess the desires of a woman himself. How to manipulate a man and the like.
Advice is given like this:
Add sexuality to your image - a man will blow his mind, and he will become easily manageable;
The man is the head, the woman is the neck. Be smarter, smarter and control a man without him noticing;
Be cunning and flexible, ask for more - get what you need;
and even this
Cry! Men do not tolerate tears and will do everything so that a woman does not cry;
Well, and the like...
It certainly works. Somewhere, with someone, for sure ...))
Surely, you can persuade a man to fulfill your desire by wearing lace stockings and a transparent blouse ...
You can probably get a ring by first scaring a man with a request for a new car ...
Of course, you will get what you want - if you cry long and touchingly ...
One, another - it will work.
But what to do - if a man and a woman have been living together for several years (months), the relationship is no longer heated by a sense of novelty, but on the contrary, there are moments of some periodic fatigue from each other ... And the tears of a woman do not cause pity, but irritation. There is a desire not to regret, but to leave home anywhere. And lace stockings and new underwear - not to surprise.
And the issue in which you want to reach agreement is very important, and it needs to be addressed! And the man does not agree, does not want, does not hear, does not understand ... he does not care about your important questions.
What to do?
Good question))
I want to draw attention to important point in a relationship. This important point removes many contentious issues with its presence. And creates a lot of problems if it is missing in your relationship.
It may be called a little differently in different pairs, but the essence is the same.
Love (mutual). Treat each other with warmth and care. The desire to make a loved one happy (must be present in both partners).
IN real relationship is a required ingredient.
Not passion, not dependence (physical/psychological), not desire to possess.
Namely, the desire to give, give, protect, surround with care, make your loved one happy! That is what I call real relationship.
Relationships in which there is indifference to a partner, to his problems, troubles, worries - not a relationship ... but ... a partnership on dubious terms.
There is no doubt that in order for a man to fulfill some desire of a woman, he must WANT to do it.
In order for a man to agree with something important to you, he must WANT to understand this importance for a woman, and feel a desire to help her by taking care of her.
Lyric, you say? It is impossible after 5-10 years of marriage?? Unreal?
If so, this is just your personal limits and limitations.
All these frames and restrictions are broken, expanded and removed from your life if you wish.
What to do:
If indifference to each other has settled in your relationship, you increasingly feel irritation with your “half”, a growing feeling of dissatisfaction with the relationship and the partner - there are two ways out: change the partner or change the relationship.
Naturally, I do not urge to destroy families, break relationships, look for new fresh feelings and sensations. No.
But you must understand that your relationship has come to this present state - through your efforts (or lack thereof). Your relationship is made by you. Putting your head and hands to it, or letting it take its course - but on your own. These are your personal results. You two.
But now, when you understand that the results are not very satisfactory for you, that you would like better and more, start restructuring your relationship. Reconstruction. Someone will need a “major overhaul” of relationships, while someone will need a “cosmetic” one.
So, in order for a man to agree with you, take care of you, fulfill your desires, you need to create such conditions that a man would do it with pleasure. It will be enough for you to correctly hint at something that is very important for you - and your man will take care of you with great pleasure, agreeing with your opinion, fulfilling your desire. At the same time, he will feel his indispensability in your life, his significance for you, he will be proud of himself and happy for his woman, who is so lucky in her life with a man.
Believe me, for a man these feelings are extremely important!
What to do specifically?
Relationships are very different. Some relationships just need to be refreshed. Other relations must be categorically directed in a different, necessary direction.
If everything is very neglected and it is completely unclear what to do, I strongly recommend individual work. With the help of a specialist, you will see the situation with different eyes, from a different angle. You will see the exits from it and you will be able to change a lot.
If the relationship with a man (husband) needs to be refreshed, made real or as close as possible to this - also a great option - the technique of Svetlana Ermakova “Do not stop him from falling in love with you. A technique that will revive even a husband! ".
The book has a lot of great, clear and simple advice that has already changed the lives of many women. I myself read Svetlana with pleasure, much is close to me and I know that it works.
Girls! My dears! How good is your problem? Yes, of course, the fact that it can be solved!
Be happy! :))
See you
With love
How to make roller shutters with your own hands
Hello my dear readers blog! As promised - now I will tell you how very simple, easy and fast make your own roller shutters. At first, it may seem to you that this is not realistic, it is not clear how to fix them to the window, and, perhaps, it is better to entrust the entire installation process to professionals. But after all, we (you and me) have golden pens, which means that it will be easier for us to sew roller shutters ourselves! And when you finish reading this article, you will definitely want to do something similar for yourself! After all, this is true creativity!
To begin with, measure the width and height of your window, on which you will sew shutters. I have a window about 130 cm by 80 cm. I specifically write my window size, as I will give an example of the distance between the eyelets.
I wanted to make not one-color shutters, but to combine three colors in them: milky, beige and blue. These colors are very in harmony with my room. You choose your own colors for your window.
And I took a linen fabric with synthetic content. In its structure, it is a bit like canvas or burlap. You are free to choose any fabric you like, the main thing is that it is not very translucent. And if you want to achieve the effect of complete darkness, then you may have to lay the fabric in two layers. All these details need to be thought out in advance.
I cut out pieces of fabric of the desired length and width + 2 cm allowances on each side. And at the bottom, you need to take more allowances, depending on the width of the bar that you decide to insert into the bottom of the roller shutter. Bottom allowances are taken from the calculation of the free rounding of the bar, without tension.
We fold the two canvases face to face, cleave with pins and sew on a typewriter. But keep one thing in mind: the sewing machine can tighten the upper part a little (it is so on my machine), so in order for both parts to be sewn perfectly evenly, without an “accordion”, I have to keep the upper part in tension a little while sewing. Then I avoid long and long weaving before sewing, and both parts are sewn perfectly evenly.
When all three colors are sewn into one canvas, we cut the allowances to 0.5-0.7 cm and smooth down. It is convenient to iron the seams by laying the product down from you.
Now we equalize the sides of the canvas, cut off the excess fabric on the sides:
We bend allowances of 1 cm on wrong side canvases on each side and smooth.
And now again we bend the ironed allowance for another 1 cm to the wrong side and sew it on a typewriter from three sides. And at the bottom we bend to the required width (I have it 3 cm).
This is how all sides of the canvas should be processed:
Now, in order to thread the cord into the canvas, which will regulate our roller shutter, it is necessary to make holes in the fabric. And to begin with, they need to be marked. Exactly in the center (from top to bottom), several holes will be made and eyelets will be installed.
So we divide the canvas in half. And we retreat from the top edge of 3.5 cm. We put a point.
We set aside 12 cm down from this point (you can reduce this value, then the number of holes in the fabric will become larger, I do not recommend increasing it, since the finished roller shutter may end up looking rough due to rare punching).
It is convenient to set aside the desired value with the help of two rulers, then the center will not shift by chance. It's comfortable.
How to install the eyelets yourself, without any special devices, except, of course, the eyelets themselves - read here.
Here's a beautiful picture I got:
Where can I get a plastic bar?
I just bought a plastic corner at a hardware store. It cuts and bends easily.
I will insert the bar into the bottom of the roller shutter from both sides. A grommet should be installed between the planks in the center, dividing the bottom allowance into two halves (see photo above). We bend the bar to make it as flat as possible (see photo 1 below). and wrap it with tape (see photo 2 below). so that sharp corners do not tighten on the fabric when we insert the strips into the roller shutter.
We place the strips on both sides of the roller shutter and sew our drawstring on the sides.
Do-it-yourself roller shutter installation
For installation, we need a cord of such thickness that it freely passes into the eyelet hole. And a latch that will compress the cord at the desired height.
We screw two screws into the upper part of the window, at a distance of 40 - 50 cm from each other. And very strongly we stretch a nylon thread between them (or fishing line, wire, which is on the farm).
I want to make a reservation right away, perhaps it will seem wild to someone - to screw a screw into a plastic window, but I am never afraid to take risks, besides, I am not going to remove roller shutters from the window, except from time to time to change them to others, and these screws are not under which option they will not be visible.
If you do not like this method - come up with your own and share it with me in the comments))).
We attach the cord to the eyelets on the roller shutter and firmly tie the upper edge of the cord with two knots in the middle of the stretched thread between the screws. It is on this place that pressure and the entire weight of the roller shutter will be exerted all the time. Therefore, it is necessary to create a strong mount.
We attach the upper edge of the roller shutter to the window with double-sided tape.
This is how the finished roller shutter looks like when closed:
And it looks so beautiful when assembled:
Sew yourself such beauty on the windows, I hope my experience will be useful to you!
I also found this useful, about how to make Roman blinds yourself:
And see you soon on the pages of the Shaysomnoy.rf blog
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