Wedding traditions - the bride's garter. What a groom throws at a wedding instead of a garter What you can throw at a wedding instead of a garter

We have collected several thoughts, found in various resources, regarding traditions, customs, ceremonies and other “symbolic” events for the entertainment of the public at a wedding banquet. I’m sharing in case someone likes it.

Lighting the hearth- everyone knows this, probably =) One long candle is lit by the groom’s mother, another long candle is lit by the bride’s mother, together with the candles, the mothers transfer the warmth of their hearth to the young (each to their child, respectively), and the bride and groom light a large beautiful candle with these two candles - mine family hearth. As an option, you can use not a “big beautiful candle”, but a candle holder for a tablet candle in the shape of a house. Very symbolic =) As another option: candles are passed not to mother and child, but through a long line of guests, so that each guest shares the warmth of their home and kind words/wishes with the young ones.

Sand ceremony: you need colored sand (look in florist shops; if you can’t find it at all, colored semolina will do), two identical small containers and one beautiful container slightly bigger size(the more original it is, the better; for example, a flat frame with a photograph and free space around it for sand to be poured into; or twisted tubes from a laboratory glass store). Sand of one color is poured into one glass/container and given to the groom, and sand of a different color is given to the bride. Accompanied by beautiful music and the profound words of the host, the newlyweds pour their sands into one beautiful container, alternating layers and mixing. And so two different “ingredients” become one.

Water ceremony: similar to sand, only water is taken different color and mixes not in layers, but in a mass, creating new color. For those who know chemistry, you can try not entirely obvious mixtures. Alas, unlike sand, it is difficult to store water for a long time.

Rose/flower ceremony: A simplified version of the union ceremony, the bride and groom exchange roses as tokens of their love. In Hawaii they exchange flower wreaths.
Variations: Representatives of the bride and groom's families exchange flowers. Or, after exchanging roses, they present flowers to their mothers.

Wine ceremony: the bride and groom each take a decanter of wine and pour it into one large glass (by the way, it would be symbolic to buy a vase in the form of a glass - such a big one), and drink from there in turns, as if also “connecting.” A more complex option: mix a cocktail.

Salt ceremony: Indian tradition. The bride takes a handful of salt and passes this handful to the groom, trying not to drop a grain. And the groom hands it back to her. And so three times. The bride then conducts the same exchange with the groom's family members. Symbolizes the mixing of the bride's family with the groom's, the exchange of traditions, family warmth, etc. and so on. In addition, the bride’s ability not to spill salt symbolizes her “aversion to quarrelsomeness,” as well as the fact that she is a good housewife.

Three Circles Ceremony: in America it is considered exotic, we have an ordinary church ceremony. An Eastern European tradition where the eldest member of the family leads the newlyweds around the table three times. A whole circle - a whole family, an inextricable union. In India, newlyweds are led around the fire 7 times, sealing their union.

Jumping the Broom Ceremony: In African-American weddings, the roots of the tradition go back to a time when slaves were not allowed to marry. By jumping over a broom together, the bride and groom seem to jump over prohibitions and barriers and move forward together in life.

Ceremony with lasso: A purely American ceremony in which a skilled person throws a lasso over the bride and groom, tying them together. With beautiful music touching words and the correct eyeliner of the leader, the lasso can be replaced with flower garlands, ribbons and other beauty.

Persian ceremony: “Sofrey Agt”, the groom is waiting for the bride, and a carpet (of cashmere or silk) is laid in front of him, a mirror of “fate” is placed on the carpet, two candles are placed and “7 elements of different colors” are placed: poppy seed, angelica, nigella mushroom , salt, incense, black tea, wild rice. The elements each have their own meaning, and in general they protect the young from evil spirits. Candles symbolize light, warmth, etc., and also represent the bride and groom and their bright future. But the mirror lies on the floor when the bride approaches the groom. She has her veil/veil down, and when she approaches the carpet, she lifts the veil, and the groom sees her face for the first time in the reflection through the mirror. In general, again, reflection protects from evil spirits and from the evil eye. In a simplified version, now in America you can find fireplace lighting ceremonies on a mirror (they sell special beautiful round silver/metal flat mirrors). It’s just beautiful when the candles are reflected, the bunnie lights are jumping around... =)

Veil removal ceremony: at the end of the evening, accompanied by touching music, the bride takes off her veil, turning into a wife. Options: 1) the mother-in-law takes off the veil when accepting the daughter-in-law into her family, and ties a scarf around her. 2) the mother takes off the veil and keeps it all her life, as if protecting her daughter’s marriage. 3) the bride is blindfolded and spun in a circle of friends. One of the friends takes off her veil.

Throwing a bouquet: I think it needs no introduction ;) The bride, turning her back to her unmarried friends, throws a bouquet. The one who caught it will be the one who gets married next. As an option: blindfolded, the bride spins around in a circle of unmarried people and either voluntarily, or at the signal of the host (for example, turning off the music) - gives it to the one standing closest.

Garter toss: also a well-known case =) The newly-made husband removes the garter from his wife’s leg and throws it, standing with his back, to his single friends. Whoever caught it will have a beautiful wife =) Option: instead of a garter (if you think it’s ugly, vulgar, you don’t want to expose your knees, or there are a lot of elderly relatives at the wedding) - the groom throws a boutonniere. If you don’t think this is erotic enough, you can attach a lace scarlet thong to the garter - supposedly the groom takes off his wife’s panties and can throw them away. For special comedians - maybe not thongs, but pantaloons with knee-length laces)

Cutting the wedding cake: The bride and groom cut the cake with one knife. The first piece is either eaten together, spoon-feeding each other; or given to the oldest person at the table as a sign of respect; or sold at auction; or cut off the first two pieces and give to mothers. For comedians: decorate the cake with sugar figures of the bride and groom and bite off the heads of your sweet half)

Loaf and breaking glasses: parents meet the newlyweds at the place of celebration with a loaf on a towel and glasses of champagne. The loaf is either broken or bitten. Whoever has the larger piece will be the master of the house. Be sure to salt the piece. As they say, “this is the last time you want to annoy your husband/wife,” and they treat their significant other. They wash it down with champagne and throw the glasses over their shoulders. Glasses clash for good luck. In addition, the fragments can be used to determine the sex of the child. If the fragments are large (a whole leg, the bowl broke into 2-3 pieces) - the first-born will be a boy; eat to pieces - girl.
And for those who want to maintain cleanliness after breaking glasses, I advise you to put the empty containers in a transparent, cute bag (for example, made of organza) and throw it away. So you can see the fragments, and you don’t need to clean up the fragments after yourself =)

WITH A wedding in the life of every woman, and men too, is always a long-awaited and anxious event. Each of us wants this day to be remembered for a lifetime and therefore tries to approach the organization of the celebration with all responsibility. And, as they say, without the past, there is no present, which means we must not forget the traditions that must be observed on the wedding day. Along with throwing the bride's bouquet, there is a tradition of the groom throwing the bride's garter. Today we will tell you why this is done and how to throw a garter correctly.

In fact, before, a garter was simply a necessary attribute in the women's toilet, because it supported the stockings that women wore and was nothing special, an ordinary elastic band, at best, the color of the stockings. After all, translated from French garter means "popliteal hollow", an elastic band that holds up a stocking. IN modern world, when hosiery production is at such a high level, they forgot about garters, and they turned into just an element wedding dress. Today these are beautiful, tastefully decorated delicate garters, made of the finest materials, decorated with lace, bows, and flowers, which are worn on the wedding day on the right leg, just above the knee.

The tradition of throwing a garter into a crowd of unmarried men came to us from the West. Along with the bride's bouquet, the garter is a symbol that its owner gains hope for a quick marriage and prosperity in life. Previously, it was believed that a wedding guest should definitely bring home a piece of clothing from the bride or groom. Can you imagine what happened at the wedding when each of the guests considered it their duty to snatch a piece of the precious outfit. It was precisely because of this that the tradition arose of throwing a bouquet into the crowd of girls by the bride, and a garter by the groom into the crowd of boys.

“What about the first wedding night, when the newly-made husband removes the garter from the bride’s leg, and...?” - you ask. Everything is very simple. If you mean American films with happy endings, then there is a little secret.
According to long-standing North American traditions, the bride wears two garters on her wedding day. She publicly gives the first to the groom and he throws her with a happy face into the crowd of friends, and the second, dressed 5 cm higher than the first, the newlyweds take off in the bedroom.

So, the long-awaited moment is approaching when the groom must remove the garter from the bride and throw it, just as the bride throws her bouquet. Although, according to tradition, it is customary to throw the garter before the bride throws the bouquet. This action always takes place at the end of the celebration, after the birthday cake has been cut. The groom needs to lift the bride in his arms, sit her down or put her on a chair. When unmarried friends gather around, he should publicly, but very carefully and delicately, feel the garter with his hands, then loosen the elastic and remove it, slightly lifting and supporting the bride’s leg. The man then stands with his back to the crowd and throws the garter as far as possible. The man who catches the easy attribute is rewarded with general applause and, according to established traditions, must invite the girl who has become the owner of the bridal bouquet to dance.

When buying wedding garters, you need to pay attention to the fact that the color is harmonious with the color of the stockings and shoes. You can also decorate the garter manually with rhinestones, lace, and beads. The main thing is that this garter makes the new owner happy and already in next year The sounds of Mendelssohn's march sounded again.

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Author Valentina Goldberg(Kovaleva) asked a question in the section Wedding, Marriage, Marriage

Where did the obscene custom of throwing a garter come from? with a bouquet it’s clear but a garter.... and got the best answer

Answer from Tpyn Bo3by)l(ДёHHoй HeBeCTbl[guru]
Soon they will throw gaskets.

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Hello! Here is a selection of topics with answers to your question: where did the obscene custom of throwing a garter come from? with a bouquet it’s understandable but a garter....

Answer from Bereginya[guru]
from porn films

Answer from Zverskaya[guru]
our people love to imitate the Americans.... a good combination.... Russian loaf and American garter!)

Answer from Annabelle[guru]
in medieval Europe it was believed that a piece torn from a bride's clothing would bring happiness. therefore, the brides, in order to avoid guests tearing their dresses into memorable shreds, came up with a distracting maneuver. We throw the garter and, while everyone is catching it, we quickly run away. By the way, they didn’t have to throw a garter, they could have thrown a stocking or some other wardrobe item))

Answer from Daria Cherkova[guru]
This has been going on since the Middle Ages. It was believed that a torn piece from the bride's dress brings happiness. Quite often, tipsy guests literally disfigured the bride’s dress. She was scared to be among the guests, because everyone was trying to tear off a piece of her dress. That's when they came up with the idea of throwing a garter.

Answer from Katya Lyubimova[guru]
Smiled! Actually, the bride doesn’t throw the garter :) The groom throws the garter to unmarried guys. Whichever guy catches it will soon get married. By analogy with the girls with the bride’s bouquet.

Answer from Ginger849[guru]
During the Middle Ages, garters were used to support pantaloons, and only after some time it became one of the important accessories not only for women, but also for men. The women's garter differed from the men's in the abundance of lace, embroidery and decorations.
What is a wedding garter? The word garter comes from “jarret”, which means “hollow”. Previously, garters were worn to hold up stockings. Now, when we talk about a wedding garter - this is a wide or narrow elastic band or ribbon that the bride puts on just above the knee of her right leg - this is the first garter, which, as a rule, is called “happy” - this is what is thrown to the groom’s single friends on wedding celebration. But, as a rule, the bride puts on two garters - the second one is slightly higher than the first - it is removed by the husband on the first wedding night and is called “honey”. The husband keeps the second garter for himself and keeps it as a lucky talisman.
Where did this tradition of throwing wedding garters come from? In ancient times, some peoples believed that bringing a piece of clothing or flowers to the house would bring happiness to the house, so each of the guests tried to tear something off. wedding suit bride or groom. And in order not to be left without a wedding dress, someone very witty came up with the idea of throwing a wedding garter. It would seem that the problem is solved. But then it turned out that the problem was solved, but not completely. Under the influence of wine fumes, most of the male guests tried to tear off this treasured garter from the beautiful bride. It was then that the tradition arose that the husband, and not anyone else, removes the wedding garter from the bride.

Answer from Yovetka[guru]
Gosh, there are so many moralists.

Answer from Max Plankoff[guru]
Because there are more and more monkeys.

Answer from I want GiVarya and I mutter!!![guru]
If we think like this, then White dress I haven’t needed to dress for a long time, I’ve fucked everything before the wedding and more than once, and yet they dress even with children and husbands on their heels.

Answer from Mari Merkushkina<3 [guru]
I’m not from Russia, so I don’t understand that you saw obscene customs there....

They say that a man who catches a garter will soon get married and be very happy in his marriage. It is also customary that the next dance, the man who caught the garter dances with the woman who caught the bride’s bouquet. And while dancing, he slowly put the garter on the girl. The groom may not necessarily throw a garter to his friends, but, for example, a flower from the bride’s bouquet.

Translated from French, garter means “popliteal cavity,” that is, the elastic band that holds the stocking. Nowadays, in our understanding, a garter is an element of a bride’s wedding dress, but previously garters were used. to support the stockings. This decoration is in the form of a beautifully decorated elastic band with lace, bows, and flowers. It is customary to wear a garter on the right leg, slightly above the knee.

Agree, it turns out somehow unfair... The bride throws a bouquet to unmarried girls, thereby giving hope to the lucky girl who caught the bouquet for a quick marriage. What about men? Despite the established public opinion that men are afraid of marriage, many of them are still not averse to starting a family and children. So, especially for them, not so long ago, they came up with the tradition of throwing the bride’s garter into a crowd of unmarried men.
Bride's garter omens and customs
This tradition was not invented by the Slavs, it came to us from the West. Previously, attending a wedding and bringing home at least a small piece of the bride or groom's clothing meant happiness and well-being in the home. Therefore, at the wedding, all the guests tried to “snatch” a piece of the newlyweds’ outfit. Sounds crazy, doesn't it? So, in order to save the young from such barbarism, they came up with the idea that the bride’s garter brings special well-being. But the heavily drunk men constantly tried to pull the garter off the bride’s leg. Then the tradition was modified - only the husband can remove the garter and throw it into a crowd of men, and the one who catches it will be the lucky one who will soon find family happiness. The bride, in turn, so as not to offend the women, threw the wedding bouquet.

By the way, in North America the bride even wears two garters. One is above the knee, and the second is 5-7 centimeters above the first. The groom takes off the first and publicly throws it to his unmarried friends, and the second remains on the bride and is called a “honey” garter. As you may have guessed, the husband removes this very second bandage from his wife alone on the wedding night.
Oddly enough, according to tradition, it is customary to throw the garter before the bride throws her bouquet. But now this is not important and, as a rule, this action occurs almost at the end of the celebration, after the guests are treated to cake.

When it's time to throw the garter, take the bride in your arms and sit or place her on a chair. Friends will gather around. Carefully lift the skirt and feel the garter with your hands. Then loosen the elastic and remove it by slightly lifting and holding the bride's leg. Some people prefer to do it with their teeth. But it happens that the bride’s dress is too fluffy to easily feel the garter underneath, much less remove it with your teeth. In this case (or if the bride feels uncomfortable lifting her skirt in front of guests), you can ask her to remove the garter herself and give it to you, this is quite normal and correct. Then stand with your back to the waiting men and, just as the bride throws the bouquet, throw the garter. Please note that the garter is very light in weight, so it is advisable to apply force when throwing it, otherwise it may fall right next to you.

Advice for girls when choosing a garter: the garter should be in harmony with the color of the stockings and shoes. As a rule, the garter is white, less often red. Now there is a large selection of garters. You can decorate it with beads, lace, rhinestones, beads. If your dress is not pure white, but there are other color shades, then you can choose a garter that is also not pure white, but with colored inserts to match the dress.

Wedding garter - where did it come from?

Garter. One of the few details of a woman's wardrobe that makes men's hearts tremble. The main purpose is to support stockings on women's legs. This exquisite piece of clothing first appeared in France at the end of the 17th century; it was the French women who were the first to think of tying up stockings that always fell down their legs. In those days, silk ribbons, braid, and strips of fabric remaining after sewing served as garters. The garter was tied into a bow on the stockings, in the area just above the knee. Some particularly resourceful ladies sewed improvised fasteners to the edges of the ribbons, so the garter would hold more securely and would not fall off when walking.

Women decorated their simple, hand-sewn garters using any available means: sewing on remnants of lace, miniature ties, pieces of fabric folded into a rose shape. But most often the garters were decorated with embroidery. And not just with patterns, but with inscriptions and ambiguous phrases. If a man managed to glimpse a garter on a lady’s leg, he was in for a surprise in the form of embroidered phrases “There is nothing to look for here” or “My heart is hopelessly occupied.”

The king's mistress as a couturier

In the eighteenth century, the Marquise de Pompadour (mistress of King Louis XV) contributed to the design of the garter. Now it was not just an element of clothing supporting stockings, it was an independent part of the wardrobe, having a beautiful, aesthetic appearance. The Marquise de Pompadour ordered her dressmakers to sew amazingly beautiful garters, decorated with rhinestones, beads, sparkles, bows, and precious stones. She became the first lady in France who did not hesitate to show her leg with a garter while surrounded by male company.

At the end of the 18th century, dentist-surgeon Martin van Batchell changed the design of garters.

He inserted a copper spring into the thick lining fabric. Garters stopped falling off women's legs, even if they danced for hours on end at the ball. Garters with springs were not cheap, but the convenience and guarantee that the stockings would not fall off at the most inopportune moment made beautiful ladies pay almost a fortune for an improved piece of clothing.

With each subsequent century, the garter acquired an increasingly sophisticated design, but never lost its popularity and relevance. Nowadays, this is already an obligatory element of a bride’s wedding wardrobe and an indispensable part of a costume for adults (intimate clothing).
A curious story that marked the beginning of the introduction of garters into the men's wardrobe took place in Calais in 1348. King Edward III danced at a ball with the Countess of Salisbury. He was passionately in love with her and did not give his lady of his heart a moment of peace. The couple danced around for a long time until... the garter fell off the countess's leg and onto the floor. Confusion gripped the countess, but Edward III saved the situation. He picked up the garter, slowly showing it off to everyone present at the ball, and put it on his left leg, securing it just above the knee. At the same time, the king uttered what became a catchphrase: “Shame on anyone who thinks badly about this!”

This is how the oldest "Order of the Garter" appeared.

The knights who entered it wore a blue velvet garter on their left leg with the image of the coat of arms of the Order. The blue ribbon became a symbol of male nobility and a reminder of the king’s act, which allowed the Countess of Salisbury to emerge with honor from the most absurd situation at the ball.

The tradition of throwing away the bride's garter to wedding guests originated in the 19th century. In those distant times, the belief was clearly strengthened that any part of the bride or groom’s clothing taken from the wedding would bring happiness, money, love and prosperity to the house. Naturally, the guests tried to tear off at least a small shred from the veil, the bride’s dress, or the groom’s camisole. It got to the point of absurdity: by the end of the wedding fun, both the groom and the bride were left practically in rags - each guest considered it his duty to take a “piece of happiness” home.

In order to avoid such a blasphemous attitude towards the newlyweds’ outfits, the newlyweds themselves gave small parts of their clothes to the guests. At the end of the wedding, handkerchiefs and small bouquets of flowers were given to everyone, attached to the groom's buttonhole and decorating the bride's hairstyle. The garter, which was publicly removed from the bride's leg by the groom, was also given away.

The ceremony of throwing the garter at a wedding.

The ceremony of throwing the bride's garter by the groom is a ritual that, in a playful manner, determines which of the unmarried men present at the festive banquet will marry next. Of course, this ritual is just a game, not a forecast or a prophecy. But this makes the ceremony of throwing the bride's garter even more fun.

The ceremony of the groom throwing the bride's garter is usually carried out towards the end of the festive banquet. It is believed that by the time the groom throws the bride's garter, the newlyweds should already be cutting the wedding cake and treating it to friends and relatives invited to the gala banquet. But the throwing of the bride's bouquet has not yet taken place; the bride will throw her wedding bouquet to the unmarried guests only after the ceremony of the groom throwing the bride's garter. This sequence of actions is the traditional sequence for a holiday banquet. However, you can break it if you see fit; today traditions do not influence us as much as before, so there is nothing wrong with breaking the traditional order of actions.
By the way, you and your chosen one should decide whether to perform the ceremony of the groom throwing the bride’s garter at the festive banquet. After all, it is he who will have to take off such an intimate part of your clothing from you and throw it to his friends. Your beloved man may be against such entertainment. When planning to arrange such a wedding ceremony at your festive banquet, remember about your guests. How will most of your guests perceive this rather playful wedding ceremony? Won't they feel insulted in their best feelings? Will this ritual fit well into the style of your wedding? Will it be appropriate? You should not carry out the ceremony of throwing the bride's garter by the groom if it does not fit organically with the style of your wedding as a whole.

There are not many girls who had to go through a truly terrible situation when groom dumped before wedding Without explaning the reason. He could not come to the ceremony or at the last moment confront the bride with the fact that he is not ready, or simply say “no, sorry” at a crucial moment. The shock that a woman experiences at such moments is difficult to compare with anything. And sometimes you have to endure the consequences for years, not trusting men and fearing relationships. Some are lucky and quickly find another groom, but deep down the trauma may remain.

One of the main reasons why some event “does not let us go” for years is that we torment ourselves with questions “Why?”, “How could he?” etc. Therefore, in this article we will deal with runaway bride syndrome in men.

In many cases, you can predict such a man's behavior in advance if you take a close look at the person you are dating (or living with). How he behaves, what he says, what thoughts he voices. Often we deprive our partner in this regard, thinking first of all about ourselves, and have little interest in what is inside him.

All contradictions, doubts, disagreements that were smoothed out throughout the relationship sharply escalate before the wedding, often turning into real pre-wedding jitters. In fact, in the last days before the registry office, the risk of separation is most likely. Many people are tormented by doubts, questions “Am I really ready?..”, “What if this is not my person?” Someone, the night before the wedding, gets drunk with friends who calm him down and convince him that he made the right decision, someone calls his ex or walks under her window, sometimes even spends the night with her or cries over the memories. Of course, not all people do this! However, for many this is a period of great stress and hypersensitivity. Here is a clear refutation of the fact that “a stamp in a passport does not change anything.”

This is precisely the most important point. How will a man react to this storm within himself? He worries and calms down, goes on the run or cancels everything. First of all, it depends on the maturity of the man and his true readiness to marry. If this is all right, then everything will be fine. But if a man constantly avoids talking about marriage - does not clearly explain his reluctance, but avoids it under various pretexts - this is already a kind of “bell”. Such behavior does not always indicate that feelings are not serious; it is quite possible that a person has certain problems associated with thoughts about marriage. There is even a special term “gamophobia” (not to be confused with homophobia), which translates as “fear of marriage.” This is a painful condition that is more common in men than women. A woman can “press” a man with this syndrome until marriage, and then have a breakdown.

Therefore, to avoid such situations, try to feel your partner. Do not put pressure on him if he categorically does not want to get married - then you risk ending up in a very painful situation.

So, the main reasons Why the groom ran away before the wedding or cancels it at the last moment.

1. Initially I didn’t want to get married. That is why in most cases it is not very correct when a woman proposes.

2. Met someone shortly before the wedding. It could be an ex, whose feelings for whom flared up especially brightly against the backdrop of jitters, or maybe another, unfamiliar girl. I met it - and here it is!..

3. "Epiphany." At a time when all emotions are heightened, the partner reacts to everything especially sharply. He thinks a lot, memories and nuances of your life together are spinning in his head, and he comes to the conclusion that you are not on the same path.

4. Fear of a new life. The closer day X is, the greater the understanding that the old life will no longer exist. Again, this mainly applies to those men who were initially not eager to get married or are too childish.

5. Panic in front of a large number of people. You will laugh, but this may well confuse a man.

6. On the contrary, the desire to be the center of attention. Having run away from a wedding, a person acquires fame, and people will talk about him for a long time. True, this point applies more to girls.

7. Chronic diseases. Yes, this happens not only in the movies, when a man suddenly finds out about a serious illness that can have a significant impact on family life.

8. A man suddenly realizes that he is gay. Or not suddenly, but right now he realizes that he cannot and should not resist his nature.

9. Friends/relatives dissuaded me. Remember the story of how a friend of mine drove a car around the registry office, dissuading her groom from going there.

Now another important question - why do you need to cancel the wedding the day before or why do you have to disappear without warning? Why we discussed above the day before - the closer the event, the stronger the doubts. Before this, everything takes place in a calmer mode. As for the fact that the groom ran away from the wedding, did not come to it, or presented it with a fait accompli at the very last moment, the reasons here are the same as in a situation where a man leaves without explanation at the peak of a relationship. He doesn’t want to say the reason, he’s afraid that the woman will dissuade him, but he’s already made a decision, unable to survive an emotional conversation (and it will definitely be emotional), he’s just a coward, wants to forget everything and immediately start a new life. In any case, this behavior is immature and it is good that fate removed such a person from your life.

How to survive such a state? First of all, give yourself the right to make a mistake - you made a mistake in choosing a person. But this is a plus - it’s good that it became clear now, and not 5 years after the wedding. If the groom canceled the wedding in advance, having warned you, then instruct him to inform all the guests about this, do not take on these difficult and humiliating explanations. Let him call your friends and relatives. If he refuses, then just send everyone to him for clarification. Hand him the phone or give him his phone number. This is not revenge (although why not) - but a person must be responsible for his actions. If you change your mind, see it through to the end.

Give yourself time to worry, don’t immediately pretend to be proud. Don't make excuses to your guests. Close people and true friends will not think of judging or ridiculing you. They themselves are experiencing no less shock - do not reject their support.

Don't take the situation personally, if only you knew how many situations like this happen! Even if there is a special term and name for the syndrome. Draw the right conclusions and try to move on with your life. Life will put everything in its place.